How to Relate to Children

Your relationship with a child will go more smoothly if you show a little kindness.

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    Be nice to a child. Step down a little and physically go to his or her level. Get on their level so you can look them in their eyes. It's like you to enter to their little worlds, their space by kneeling, placing them on your laps, etc.
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    Be giving and kind. Don't scold or hit.
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    Listen. Really pay attention to what they have to say. Some of it will be silly. Some of it will be repetitive or less than sensible. Then, go with it. Joke and be silly, explain, answer their questions as best you can, or ask them some questions of your own to get them thinking.
    • Ask them what are they thinking about? Prepare yourself because you may be surprised! If they can not put their thinking in words, you may think of simple emotions or thoughts.
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    Let them get away with a few things, as long as it won't cause too much trouble. This will make them think you're cool. Let them stay up late, or invite all kinds of friends over. Let them get into the chocolate, watch the big kid movies or a TV show that is on a little late.
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    Make time for kids. Get off your computer, and play some childrens' games like "Mother May I", "Red Light, Green Light", or board games.
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    Read to them, or let them read to you. A good story is a great thing to share.
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    Play pretend games like "house", or "school".
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    Get outside and keep kids active. When kids are getting some exercise and fresh air, their behavior is better than if they are playing video games all the time. The best way to convince them to get outside is to announce "in half and hour we're all going outside, so you have a half hour to play video games" then in 10 minutes time, remind them again. Then, when they have to get off there will be less likelihood of all the screaming and "I hate yous".
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    Encourage the children. Cheer them on with phrases such as "good job". Give high-fives. This will get them excited and will make them feel appreciated.
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    Take children places. Playgrounds, libraries, amusement parks, skating rinks, lakes, movies, museums, anywhere where they can explore, learn, and/or have fun.
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    Go crazy! Dance, laugh, sing, shout, tell jokes, tell secrets, be a kid yourself!
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Community Q&A

  • Question
    How do I love my children?
    Community Answer
    Community Answer
    People generally believe and accept that love for one's children comes completely naturally and doesn't require any extra effort. If you find that you feel no love for your children, you may want to talk to a mental health professional to try and figure out why. Keep in mind that becoming angry or punishing your children for bad behavior is not a sign that you don't love them.

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Updated: November 5, 2020
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Categories: Raising Children
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