What Are Some Topics You Can Talk About With Your Crush?

Last Updated: August 25, 2021 References

Having a crush is an electrifying experience, but you might feel tongue-tied whenever you cross paths. Don’t worry. There are plenty of ways to break the ice and get a conversation going. Who knows; with enough interesting and thought-provoking chats, you might feel ready to take your relationship to the next level!

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Music

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Ask about some of their favorite tunes. See if they have a favorite singer, or if there’s a band that really rocks their world. You could also ask about some of their favorite songs.^{[1]
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- “What song is stuck in your head?” or “Which song do you constantly have on repeat?” are some great conversation starters.

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Movies & TV

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Tune into some of their favorite movies and shows. Compare their top picks with yours, and see if you have anything in common. You might also dial up the nostalgia factor and ask them about their favorite childhood TV show or movie, and see where the conversation goes from there.^{[2]
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- “What movie would you bring with you to a deserted island?” or “What TV show could you rewatch over and over again?” are great conversation starters.

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Books

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Compare notes on your favorite books. Ask them if there’s a book they love to pieces, or if there’s a series or franchise that they’re really interested in. Sharing favorite titles is not only a great way to get book recommendations but also a good way to learn more about your crush.^{[3]
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- “What book do you wish was a movie?” or “Is there a book you just can’t put down?” could lead to an interesting conversation.

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Hobbies

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Chat about what they do in their spare time. This is a great way to unearth some fun facts, and a great way to divulge some information about yourself, too. Depending on your answers, you might find an interesting hobby you can try together.^{[4]
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- Questions like “What keeps you busy during the weekend?” are great ways to break the ice.
- After they share some of their hobbies, you might say, “That sounds really cool. Do you think you could teach me how to do that sometime?”

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Sports

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Sports-related topics will really get the ball rolling. Find out what their favorite sport is and if they have any favorite teams. If they seem interested enough, chat about the current athletic season, or discuss some really inspirational, jaw-dropping moments in sports.^{[5]
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- For instance, in the summer, you might ask her about their favorite baseball team, while you might have more luck talking about basketball in the winter.
- You might ask, “Do you like the Winter or Summer Olympics more?”
- “Did you hear about the woman who swam with a glass of milk on her head?” or “Did you catch that game last Friday?” are other great conversation-starters.

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Food

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See if your crush is actually a secret chef. Ask them if they like to cook and if they have go-to recipes. If they don’t like cooking, that’s okay! You could always share some of your favorite dishes, and even segue the conversation in a more romantic direction.^{[6]
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- Simple questions like “Do you have any secret skills in the kitchen?” or “What’s your favorite recipe?” are great ways to strike up a conversation.
- You might also say something like, “I make a killer mac and cheese. I can whip it up for you sometime, if you’d like.”

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Travel

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Expand your horizons by talking about a dream trip. Ask them which country or city they’d like to travel to, and why. Feel free to share your own dream trip, too. You can learn a lot about a person from their dream vacation destination!^{[7]
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- You might ask, “If you had a million bucks, where would you travel to first?” or “Which city is on the top of your bucket list to visit?”
- After your crush answers, you could ask, “What makes that place so special to you?” or “What would you want to do once you got there?”

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Animals

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The age-old “cat or dog” question is sure to get a conversation going. See if your crush is a dog person or a cat person. Depending on your pet preferences, you could redirect the conversation into talking about your pets.^{[8]
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- You might say, “If you could only have a dog or a cat for the rest of your life, which one would you pick?”

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Jokes and Fun Facts

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Silly topics are a tried-and-true way to get a fun conversation going. Ask your crush to share their favorite joke, or see if they know any ridiculous, hilarious fun facts. Funny topics are a great way to get closer with your crush while keeping the conversation going.^{[9]
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- You might say, “I’ve had a really long morning. Got any jokes to lighten things up?”

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Internet Memes

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Nothing breaks the ice quite like a classic meme. Share whatever meme is taking over the internet at the moment, or lean on a few classics to get the conversation going. Funny, meme-related questions are sure to lead to a memorable conversation.^{[10]
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- “Did you see that meme that everyone’s retweeting?” or “Have you seen that celebrity impression post on TikTok?” are great conversation-starters.
- “What do you think Billy Ray Cyrus was thinking about in that picture?” could be a fun way to discuss an older but iconic meme.

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Trends

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Share your thoughts on some confusing, viral trends. Discuss the latest, greatest, and most confusing trends on TikTok, or what’s blowing up on Twitter. Trends are a great way to break the ice, and can also help you get to know your crush a little better.^{[11]
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- You might say, “Did you see what was trending on Twitter this morning?” or “Has that dance challenge popped up on your TikTok feed yet?”

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Astrology

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Take your conversation up to the stars. Discussing astrology signs may be a bit cliche, but it’s still a great way to break the ice. For starters, ask them what their star sign is, and compare it with your own. If you really want to go deep, ask to know their moon or ascendant sign.^{[12]
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- You might say, “I’m a Cancer, so summer is automatically my favorite season. Is your birthday season your favorite time of the year?”

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Love Languages

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Take a romantic detour by asking about your crush’s love language.^{[13]
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- You might say, “My love language is quality time. Which love language do you prefer?”
- If your crush doesn’t know what the 5 love languages are, feel free to explain the concept.

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Favor

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Ask your crush if they can do something for you. Believe it or not, studies show that people will like you more if you ask for a favor. Start off your conversation with a small request, and see where things go!^{[15]
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- “Did you write down what tonight’s math homework was?” could be a good way to ask for a favor.