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This article was co-authored by Cher Gopman and by wikiHow staff writer, Hannah Madden. Cher Gopman is the Founder of NYC Wingwoman LLC, a date coaching service based in New York City. 'NYC Wingwoman' offers matchmaking, wingwoman services, 1-on-1 Coaching, and intensive weekend bootcamps. Cher is a Certified Life Coach, a former psychiatric nurse, and her work has been featured on Inside Edition, Fox, ABC, VH1, and The New York Post.
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When you love someone a lot, telling them how much they mean to you is really important. However, thinking of deep ways to articulate your feelings can be tough, and many of us fall back on saying “I love you” all the time. Whether you’re talking to a romantic partner, a close friend, or a family member, there are tons of deep things you can say to them to express your love.
Steps
Method 1
Method 1 of 15:“I’m here for you.”
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1Let your loved one know you’re going to stick around no matter what. In good times, in bad times, and any times in between, you’re going to be there to support them. This phrase also signifies that your partner or family member can lean on you or ask you for help if they need to. Even if you’re talking to someone who lives far away, you can let them know that you’re there for them in spirit.[1] [2]
- You can be a shoulder to lean on or simply someone to vent to about their problems.
- You could also say things like, “Do you need anything?” or, “I’m here for you no matter what happens.”
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Method 2
Method 2 of 15:“I support you.”
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1Give your partner, friend, or family member a vote of confidence. If they’re feeling nervous or anxious about a job interview, family drama, or a career change, tell them that you’re with them 100%. It could just give them the push they need to put their best foot forward and make it work.[3]
- Saying you support your loved one also puts you on the same team—and having a teammate in the game of life feels great.
- You can further validate your loved one by saying things like, “I think you should follow your dreams,” or, “You seem really passionate about this. I think you should go for it.”
Method 3
Method 3 of 15:“We’re in this together.”
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1Let your loved one know they don’t have to face things alone. When you tell them that you’re standing by, it can take the weight of the world off their shoulders. With this phrase, you can tell your friend, family member, or partner that you’re here to help, and all they have to do is ask.[4]
- This is a great thing to say if your loved one is facing an unexpected and stressful situation, like a family member falling ill.
- You could also say, “I’m with you 100%.”
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Method 4
Method 4 of 15:“How can I show up for you this week?”
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1Ask your partner what you can do for them. It’s a nice way to see if they are feeling unappreciated; and, if they are, what you can do to fix it. They might ask you to listen to them vent, do them a favor, or even just sit with them in silence for some company.[5]
- If you have a long-term romantic partner, asking them how you can show up for them is a great way to make them feel appreciated.
- You could also say something like, “What can I do to lower your stress levels?”
Method 5
Method 5 of 15:“How are you really doing?”
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1Dive deeper into how your loved one feels today. Oftentimes, when we ask people how they are, we don’t expect a real answer. You can let your loved one know that you’re actually asking with this simple question.[6]
- If your loved one has gone through a tough time lately, be prepared to be a listening ear or a shoulder to cry on.
- You could also say something like, “I know you’ve been going through a tough time lately. Do you want to talk about it?”
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Method 6
Method 6 of 15:“Tell me more.”
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1Ask them to elaborate and show that you’re interested. It’s a good way to actively listen to your partner or your friends, and it also tells them that you like hearing them talk.[7] The phrase “tell me more” is more significant than “what happened?” and it will make the person you’re talking to feel special.[8]
- You can show you’re actively listening by putting away distractions and making eye contact with your loved one while they talk.
- You could also say things like, “I’m really interested,” or, “I want to hear more.”
Method 7
Method 7 of 15:“I trust you.”
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1Healthy relationships are built on trust. You can let your loved one know that you two have a healthy relationship by acknowledging the trust that you share. This also shows that you won’t second guess them and that you trust their judgment.[9]
- In romantic relationships, telling someone you trust them can really deepen your connection.
- You could also say something like, “I feel a deep connection with you.”
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Method 8
Method 8 of 15:“You make me feel safe.”
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1Compliment your loved one by telling them how you feel. If you feel super relaxed and at peace with this special person, it’s probably because you can count on them to protect you. Show them that you’ve noticed how much they care for you by telling them you feel calm around them.[10]
- You can also say things like, “I feel at peace when I’m with you,” and “I know you’d never hurt me.”
Method 9
Method 9 of 15:“You matter so much to me.”
Method 9
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1Tell them that they’re your top priority. When you get busy with work, kids, and responsibilities, it can be easy to let your loved one fall by the wayside. Remind them that they’re still your number one no matter how busy you two get.[11]
- Another great way to phrase this is by saying, “Your feelings matter to me.”
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Method 10
Method 10 of 15:“You’re my best friend.”
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1We share our secrets, dreams, and insecurities with our best friends. When you tell your loved one that they’re your best friend, you’re saying that they’re the most important person in your life. It’s a huge compliment, and they’ll probably feel flattered to hear it.[12]
- Don’t be afraid to tell your romantic partner that they’re your best friend. Relationships are built on friendships, and your partner should probably be the person you turn to first (just like a best friend).
- You could also say something like, “You’re one of the most important people in my life.”
Method 11
Method 11 of 15:“I love being around you.”
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1Tell them that their presence is the only thing you need from them. Whether you two are lounging around in your pajamas or heading out for a fancy dinner, tell your loved one that they make every experience better. It will warm their heart and make them feel super appreciated.[13]
- We’ve all felt like we were annoying or irritating to our loved ones. You can quell your special person’s fears with this simple sentence.
- You can also say things like, “You’re my favorite person to be around,” or, “Spending time with you makes me really happy.”
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Method 12
Method 12 of 15:“It meant so much to me when you…”
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1Praise your loved one when they do something awesome. If they’ve been there for you or really stepped up to the plate lately, let them know that you’ve noticed. It will warm their heart and make them more inclined to do something similar in the future.[14]
- We’re often hardwired to look for the things that people do wrong. With this phrase, you can compliment your loved one on what they did right.
Method 13
Method 13 of 15:“... is really bringing me joy right now.”
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1Let your partner know that you’re feeling happy. It could be about something they’ve done, your relationship together, or something completely random. You can share your happy thoughts with your loved one so you can both feel good together at the same time.[15]
- For instance, you might say, “Simply spending time with you is bringing me so much joy right now.”
- You could also say, “I feel really happy with our relationship right now.”
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Method 14
Method 14 of 15:“I am trying to understand your point of view.”
Method 14
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1Make your connection deeper by showing them you care. If you’re having a disagreement or you two can’t get on the same page, you can tell your loved one that you’re really trying to see what they see. This phrase can help you two talk out any problems and reach a conclusion that’s good for the both of you.[16]
- This is a great phrase to keep in the back of your mind during arguments. It won't put your partner on the defensive, and it can foster better communication.
- You could also say, “Could you explain that to me again?” or, “I’m having trouble understanding where you’re coming from.”
Method 15
Method 15 of 15:“I don’t agree, but I’ll try.”
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1Show your loved one that you’re willing to compromise. We aren’t always going to agree with everything our loved one does or says, and that’s okay. Show them that you trust their judgment by respecting their choices.[17]
- You might say this if your parents are asking you to try going to college, but you aren’t sure it’s what you want to do.
- Or, you might say this if your partner wants to try taking a 15-minute pause in the middle of an argument, but you like to hash out your issues all at once.
- You could also say, “I’m not sure this is the best idea, but I’m willing to test it out.”
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References
- ↑ Cher Gopman. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 17 May 2019.
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/complicated-love/201803/5-ways-say-i-love-you-without-saying-i-love-you
- ↑ https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/20-things-to-tell-your-s-o-more-often/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-connected-life/201612/3-ways-really-be-there-when-your-partner-is-hurting
- ↑ https://www.nbcnews.com/better/lifestyle/7-things-say-your-spouse-deepen-your-connection-ncna1052091
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/lib/how-couples-can-help-each-other-de-stress-and-improve-their-relationship#2
- ↑ Cher Gopman. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 17 May 2019.
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/complicated-love/201803/5-ways-say-i-love-you-without-saying-i-love-you
- ↑ https://www.ny.gov/teen-dating-violence-awareness-and-prevention/what-does-healthy-relationship-look
- ↑ https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/20-things-to-tell-your-s-o-more-often/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/complicated-love/201803/5-ways-say-i-love-you-without-saying-i-love-you
- ↑ https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/20-things-to-tell-your-s-o-more-often/
- ↑ https://www.operationwarm.org/newsroom/blog.html/article/2017/07/06/50-nice-things-to-say-to-a-friend
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This article was co-authored by Cher Gopman and by wikiHow staff writer, Hannah Madden. Cher Gopman is the Founder of NYC Wingwoman LLC, a date coaching service based in New York City. 'NYC Wingwoman' offers matchmaking, wingwoman services, 1-on-1 Coaching, and intensive weekend bootcamps. Cher is a Certified Life Coach, a former psychiatric nurse, and her work has been featured on Inside Edition, Fox, ABC, VH1, and The New York Post. This article has been viewed 9,713 times.
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