How to Turn a Guy on While Making Out

Last Updated: October 29, 2021 References Approved

You're alone with a cute guy and the two of you start making out, but now what? If you really want to turn him on, all you need is a bit of confidence and a few tips. To help you out, we've put together some foolproof ways to turn a guy on while making out so you can make things extra sexy and steamy the next time you're alone together.

Part 1

Part 1 of 2:
Seductive Kissing Techniques

1
Escalate the kissing gradually. A good make out session progresses gradually. As you lean in to kiss, allow things to happen at their own pace. Pay attention to the man's reactions; try to get a sense of what he likes and dislikes. Start off at a slow tempo and then, as things get heavier, move quicker and start using your tongue, hands, and other body parts.^{[1]
X
Research source}
2
Use your tongue. Many people enjoy some tongue during making out. If the man you're kissing seems to enjoy tongue, then don't hesitate to use your tongue during the make out session.
- If you want to allow the guy to take the lead, try opening your mouth slightly to show him you're interested. See if he initiates using his tongue.^{[2]
  X
  Research source}
3
Tease him. Sometimes, some mild teasing can really turn a guy on. In the middle of a kiss, pull back slightly and pull his head away from your face. Pause kissing for a few seconds and then resume. Many men get turned on by mild teasing during making out.^{[3]
X
Research source}
4
Kiss the neck and ears. Men, like women, have erogenous zones throughout the body. These are areas that respond sexually to physical contact. The neck and ears tend to have a lot of nerve endings. Try gently kissing or sucking a man's ears or neck during making out. This can be a huge turn on.^{[4]
X
Research source}
5
Touch a guy's face while making out. The face is a sensual spot on a man's body. When making out, reach up and touch his face. Gently rub his stubble and rub his cheeks. Many men experience sexual pleasure through scalp massages, so try gently running your fingers through his hair as well.

Part 2

Part 2 of 2:
Using Your Body

1
Smile and maintain eye contact. Before you begin making out, keep eye contact steady. This will show a man you're interested and can help turn him on. Smile between kisses. A man will be turned on if he pulls away for a moment and sees you smiling.^{[5]
X
Research source}
2
Touch his body. Don't forget to use your hands when making out. Men will be turned on by gentle touching on the head, back, and arms.
- Run your fingers over his back lightly. If he's not wearing a shirt, consider using your nails. Some men enjoy mild scratching.^{[6]
  X
  Research source}
- You can also touch his arms, legs, chest, and any other body parts that are easily accessible.^{[7]
  X
  Research source}
3
Use your whole body. Don't just use your face and hands during a make out session. Using your entire body can help turn a man on.
- Lean into him as you make out. You can even push yourself on top of him or pull him on top of you.
- Try wrapping one of your legs around his or rubbing your foot gently against his thigh.
4
Communicate. The best way for healthy physical contact is to communicate openly. Talk to your partner about what he does and does not enjoy. Being open about your physical desires can lead to more enjoyable, intimate kissing.^{[8]
X
Research source}^{[9]
X
Research source
Jacqueline Hellyer. Licensed Psychosexual Therapist.}
- Many people initially feel uncomfortable when having to communicate about sexual desires. However, keep in mind open communication is an important part of any health sexual relationship.
- Try starting a conversation by saying something like, "I really care about you and want you to enjoy our physical intimacy. Is there anything you enjoy when we're kissing I could do more?"

Community Q&A

Question

What if he thinks I'm a hoe when I do these things?

Community Answer

Then drop him. No man should make you feel bad about expressing yourself however you want. If he's uncomfortable with what you're doing, that would be different, but no one should ever call you a hoe.
Question

How does someone feel while being kissed?

Community Answer

They should feel a feeling of protection and love and passion all at the same time. Kissing should be a way to express how you feel to someone.
Question

How can I figure out if my boyfriend is really into me, or if he just wants sex?

Community Answer

Does he take you on dates and actually listen to what you have to say or does he just text you for booty calls? Does he want to know more about you and introduce you to his friends and family or keep you a secret? Be honest, and you'll have your answer.
Question

Where do I kiss a guy's neck to turn him on?

Community Answer

On the side of the neck below the ear where you can feel the pulse.
Question

How do you get him to kiss you?

Community Answer

Sit close and engage in some physical contact, such as your leg against his. Biting your lip might send him the message. Pretend that you're tired, lean your head on his shoulder, look up at him and smile
Question

I'm scared to initiate the first part. I feel like he should kiss me first. What can I do?

Community Answer

Lean in close and talk in a quieter voice. Keep eye contact and look at his lips. If that doesn't work, you can always start rubbing his chest/thigh or tug on his shirt to encourage him to come closer and kiss you.
Question

How do I turn on a guy who is skinny when I'm fat?

Community Answer

It doesn't matter what your body type is or what his body type is. If you have an emotional connection then those factors shouldn't matter.
Question

What if the man wants more than a kiss and I'm not ready to give more?

Community Answer

Just tell him that you're not ready for more than a kiss. Most people are glad to know their boundaries before they start making out so they don't have to worry about over-stepping them.
Question

How can I stop being shy around my boyfriend?

Community Answer

If it's a new relationship, get to know him before you start anything physical. Talk to him, ask him questions about himself, ease into more personal topics. Talking about things like that can bring two people closer together and will likely make you feel less shy.
Question

What does turn a man on mean?

Community Answer

To sexually arouse him.