How to Talk With a Straight Person

Be yourself. Don't worry too much about whether they are bigoted or not, if they turn out to be a bigot, then they weren't worth your friendship anyway. It's okay to mention your same-gender partner, or do stereo typically "gay" or "lesbian" things. Let them appreciate you for who you are.

Remember you aren't obligated to educate them. While it may not be a problem to teach them a new word or gently correct an assumption here and there, too much education can be a drain on your energy. Feel free to point them to a website, or suggest they look it up, if you're getting tired.

• If they say hurtful things, to the point that it's really impacting you, cut contact. Your emotional health matters. You aren't obligated to rid them of their toxic ideas.

Don't be afraid to talk about love. Straight/LGBT+ friendships are definitely possible, and you may be able to chat about significant others just as easily as you would with an LGBT+ friend. If you're attracted to the same gender of people, you can even talk about cute people together!

Find ways to bond. Straight people are people just like anyone else, and bonding with them is not very different than bonding with a gay, bisexual, or asexual person.

Treat them with respect. Even if they're laughably ignorant, they are still worthwhile people. It's important not to condescend to them as they learn, because it may strain your friendship. Keep them in your good graces unless they start doing clearly harmful or mean things.