How to Meet Girls Outside of School

Co-authored by Jessica Gibson

Last Updated: November 3, 2021 References

Hanging out on campus, taking classes together, and going to school functions are some of the best ways to meet girls, but if you're not in school what are you to do? First off, don't stress! There are tons of opportunities to meet girls in your community, you just have to know where to look and be open to new experiences. To help you out, we've listed some great places to start.

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Go to a local event.

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Check out a show or concert to meet fun girls. Most cities publish a monthly event calendar with concerts, readings, and festivals. Make a point of going to a few of them so you're getting out and mingling. Try to talk with girls and just get comfortable introducing yourself. You might hit it off the first time, or you may see the same girl at another event later on.^{[1]
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- Summer is a great time for meeting people. Lots of parks and community centers offer fun, free outdoor events. You might chat with a girl at a free movie in a park, for instance.
- If you're part of a faith-based organization, go to your group's events. This is a good way to meet a girl who has the same values as you.

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Hang out at bookstores or libraries.

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Browse the stacks and strike up a conversation with a girl. Bookstores and libraries are great places to meet girls since you can usually chat with them one-on-one in a quiet setting. It also gives you something to talk about—mention books you want to read, books you really liked, or authors you follow.^{[2]
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- For instance, say, "Oh, I see you're looking at Neil Gaiman. Have you ever read Patrick Rothfuss? You might really like it."

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Spend time at coffee shops, bars, or cafes.

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Check out local favorites to casually meet girls. You can easily strike up a conversation with a girl in any of these places. Just keep it low-key and stay confident. If she wants to keep talking to you, you two can easily sit down at a table and have a longer conversation.^{[3]
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- Is it busy at the coffee shop? Tell a girl she's welcome to sit at your table if there's not much space. Be friendly and approachable so she feels comfortable.
- If you're old enough, you could try to meet girls at nightclubs. Keep in mind that these can be loud so it might be hard to have a thoughtful conversation.

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Join a gym or sports team.

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Pick an activity that you're interested in and be friendly. If you're working out in a gym on a regular basis, you might see the same girls again and again, or maybe you can join a co-ed sports team. Both of these are good ways to introduce yourself and get your foot in the door.^{[4]
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- See if your community has co-ed disc golf teams, for instance, or join a popular workout class at a community center.

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Tour local museums.

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Soak up some knowledge or culture while you mingle. Check out art museums, science centers, or historical sites in your area. They may do small tours or host events, but chances are you'll bump into girls and can easily make small talk.
- Some museums do fun evening events where they have cocktails and music. This is a great venue for meeting girls.

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Shop at small eclectic stores.

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Hit your downtown to find little shops where you could meet girls. You might meet someone who's also browsing or you may hit it off with a girl who's working. Check out vintage stores or antique shops since these also give you lots to talk about.
- For instance, you could say you're looking for a very specific item or you might just talk about a really unusual item you find.

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Spend the afternoon at a park.

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Bring a book and relax at a popular spot. Most cities have a nice park where people hang out, throw around a frisbee, or skate. Plan on hitting the park when it's a little busy and say hi to girls you meet.^{[5]
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- Bonus points if you bring your cute dog! Dogs are a fantastic ice breaker since they make you seem totally approachable.^{[7]
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- Some parks will put on free plays in the summer. This is another great way to meet girls.

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Ask your friends to introduce you to girls.

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Tell them that you'd like to meet girls and they can set you up. Your friends know your personality and they may be able to connect you with a girl that you'd really hit it off with. You can go the old-school double-date route or ask them to invite her the next time you hang out with a big group.^{[8]
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- You might say, "Do you think you can introduce me to your friend Carly? I think I'd like to hang out with her sometime."

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Volunteer in your community.

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Spend time doing some good while meeting new people. If hanging out and waiting to meet girls just isn't your thing, pick a project that you care about. Check your city's community event calendar to find volunteer opportunities and spend a few hours every week volunteering. You'll probably meet girls with similar interests, which is a great way to meet.^{[9]
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- For instance, if you are passionate about animals, volunteer at an animal shelter. If you're environmentally-minded, spend time picking up litter in a park.

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Organize your own event.

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Invite friends and tell them to bring girls they know. If you dislike going out, you might feel more comfortable if you set up your own party or event. Let your close friends know that you're going to have a party, show a movie, set up a game night, or whatever you choose, and tell them to spread the word. You'll soon have a fun, interesting mix of people that you might not have met on your own.^{[10]
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- This is also a great strategy if you don't often get invited out or not much seems to be happening in your city. Instead of waiting for fun opportunities to meet people, you're making your own!

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Take improv classes.

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Sign up for a short improv class at a local theatre. You're sure to meet girls and you'll probably be working together in small groups at some point. This can make it a lot easier to talk one-on-one without the pressure of asking her out.^{[11]
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- You'll also pick up useful skills for talking to girls. You'll learn how to respond quickly in conversation, be funny, and build confidence—all of which are attractive to girls.

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Get a job.

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Look for a job where you'll be interacting or working with girls. You might get a job at a cafe, bookstore, music store, or bar, for instance. You might just find that you're able to strike up a conversation with a girl who's a regular customer. Plus, making money while you meet people isn't a bad thing!^{[12]
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- Internships are also great ways to meet girls while advancing your career. You could meet girls with similar interests if you're interning with the same company.

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Try online dating sites.

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Set up a dating profile if you're struggling to meet girls in person. You have tons of options for online dating sites! Make a profile and spend some time searching through girls' profiles until you find some people that you're interested in meeting. This is a great low-pressure way to put yourself out there.^{[13]
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- Be as honest as you can in your profile so you attract girls who might be genuinely interested in you.