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Do you have a special someone who you want to notice you? He probably doesn't notice you because you aren't so confident around him. This article shows several ways to build your confidence around him and get him to notice you.
Steps
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1Make sure you are happy about yourself and your appearance. Most of the time if you are not happy or confident, your feelings will show. Look in a mirror and smile at yourself and make different faces. Smile around him and be with friends, so you look like you have a life outside of trying to get the attention of guys. You don't have to ignore him completely, but don't get obsessive, either.[1]
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2Practice walking at home. Walk with your shoulders loosely relaxed. Swing your hips but only a little, otherwise it will give the guy the idea that you're trying too hard.Advertisement
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3When you are in a same class together, try complimenting him such as saying: "Wow, I really like your handwriting" or "I like your shirt." Maybe you'll get a compliment back. If you don't brush it off. Most likely he is not interested, because for in most cases, guys will look for every opportunity to compliment a girl who they are into.[2]
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4Try picking something up and handing it to him with a smile if he accidentally knocks it over. This will let him know that you are comfortable doing things for him, and usually this starts conversations. Don't become the "guy" in the relationship though. If he is not sure enough of himself to do the same back, like pick up a book you dropped in the hallway, then don't try. Or at least, give him a year or two to "man up".
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5Don't be too shy around him. Make sure you laugh at his jokes, just not all of them or else he might think that you're trying too hard. Ask him about his interests and what he likes to do for fun.[3]
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6Play hard-to-get if you're sure he likes you, but are nervous about asking you out. Talk to other boys, and act independent and confident. Boys go crazy when they like you and you flirt with other boys![4]
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7Be intimate but conservative. If he really likes you he won't need the sexy side of you all the time. Make yourself stand out, but not so much that he will think you're way out of your comfort zone and trying too hard. If he likes what you think is inappropriate or extremely uncomfortable to you, he's not good for you.
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8Keep on being yourself. If he doesn't like how you truly are, then it's his problem and he's obviously not the perfect guy for you. Remember, there's someone out there that's absolutely amazing and will love you for who you are, and if you keep on looking, you will find him.[5]Advertisement
Warnings
- Definitely don't bring up any past relationships unless he asks, and then be vague about them.Thanks!
- If you don't really like him that much, don't flirt with him! One of your friends might like him, or someone that's not one of your friends.Thanks!
- Don't make it obvious that you are trying too hard.Thanks!
- Don't laugh too much because you'll seem clingy which is a big turn off!Thanks!
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References
- ↑ https://time.com/59786/how-to-flirt-backed-by-scientific-research/
- ↑ https://www.today.com/health/18-ways-flirt-without-being-slutty-I525298
- ↑ https://www.today.com/health/what-men-find-sexy-simple-ways-get-him-notice-you-t100399
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201606/how-and-why-play-hard-get
- ↑ https://www.today.com/health/what-men-find-sexy-simple-ways-get-him-notice-you-t100399
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