How to Make Your Long Distance Boyfriend Feel Special

Co-authored by Connell Barrett and Janice Tieperman

Last Updated: August 25, 2021 References Approved

Did your long-distance boyfriend have a bad day, or is he feeling a little extra lonely? Don’t worry. There are plenty of ways to show him that you care about and appreciate him, even if you can’t be there in person. We’ve put together some quick and easy tips and suggestions that are sure to bring a smile to his face.

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Send him a surprise email.

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An email is a lot quicker than a card or package. Draft a note explaining how much you love and care about him, and how you can’t wait to see him soon. Whether he’s at home or at work, an unexpected message in his inbox is sure to brighten his day!^{[1]
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Text him encouraging messages.

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Little messages and reminders can make a big difference. Text your boyfriend periodically to remind him how much you love him, and how important he is to you. Thank him for being in your life, and for always being there—he’ll really appreciate the gesture.^{[2]
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- You might say, “Thank you so much for always being there for me” or “There aren’t enough words to express how much I care about you.”

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Call him at the end of the day.

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A call is a fun surprise when you can’t be there in person. Brainstorm when he’ll be off work, or any time he’ll be free to take your call. He’ll be excited to see your face show up on his caller ID!^{[3]
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- For an extra special surprise, video call or FaceTime him instead.

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Take a spicy photo.

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Sexts offer a little extra intimacy while you’re far apart. Don’t worry about sending these pictures at a “right” or “wrong” time. Instead, just snap a quick picture and send it to him whenever you have a spare moment. He’ll appreciate the gesture, and might even send you something in return!^{[4]
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- You might snap a picture of yourself in some lingerie, or send him a spicy photo when he’s getting ready for bed.

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Order him food.

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Third-party apps make long-distance food delivery a breeze. Download an application like Seamless, Postmates, DoorDash, GrubHub, or UberEats. Check that these apps deliver to his address, and then order his favorite meal or snack right to his door.^{[5]
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- Try to order the food at a time when he’ll be home.

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Help him with his day-to-day tasks.

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Believe it or not, there are lots of ways to virtually lend a hand. You might proofread a paper he’s writing for school, or give him a wake-up call to make sure he’s ready for work. Little acts of kindness will really make him feel special and cared for.^{[6]
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- For example, if he hates clothing shopping, you might order some new shirts and shorts for him online.
- You might pay for dry cleaning so he doesn’t have to worry about doing the wash, or virtually grocery shop for him.

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Send him a playlist.

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Playlists are a romantic, creative way to show that you’re thinking of him. Using an app like Spotify, compile a variety of different tunes that remind you of him and your relationship. If possible, set the playlist to private, and then send him a link to your personalized musical gift.^{[7]
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- You might pick songs by your boyfriend’s favorite band, or pick songs that match his favorite music genres.

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Post a romantic social media update.

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He’ll be pleasantly surprised by the notification. Log onto Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or your social platform of choice and post a romantic or cute message. Then, tag your boyfriend’s account so he gets notified. Now, your boyfriend as well as your friends and followers can know how much you care about him!^{[8]
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- You might upload a silly picture of you both, or post a short, sweet message about how much you love him.

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Schedule a dinner date.

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When you can’t meet in person, a video date is the next best thing. To really set the mood, change into a fancy outfit and light some candles in front of your webcam. Regularly scheduled dinner dates remind your boyfriend that you really care about him, and that he’s an important part of your life.^{[9]
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- You might schedule a dinner date once a week or once every other week, depending on your schedules.
- If you don’t have time for a dinner date, try coordinating your schedules and watching the sunrise or sunset together.

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Kick back with a game night.

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Draw Something, Among Us, and Houseparty are great options. Other games, like Jackbox party packs, Uno, Animal Crossing: New Horizons, Scrabble GO, and Fortnite are great options to pass the time.^{[10]
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- Some games, like Jackbox, cost money to download and play. However, many virtual games are completely free.

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Write a love letter or card.

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This old-school gesture is sure to brighten his day. Write him a sweet note explaining how much you love and care about him. It’s okay if you aren’t a wordsmith—feel free to toss a love poem into the mix, or reference a romantic movie.^{[11]
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- You might say, “I can’t believe how lucky I am to have you in my life” or “I’m counting down the days until we can see each other again.”

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Mail him a surprise care package.

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Everyone loves finding a package in their mailbox. Put together plenty of snacks, personal items, and other small gifts that will remind him of you. These gifts don’t have to be lavishly expensive—the package alone shows that you’re thinking about him, which will make him feel special.^{[13]
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- You might mail him an old shirt or hoodie that smells like you, or a framed photo of the 2 of you together.
- You could send him his favorite snacks, a gift card to his favorite store or restaurant, or a throw blanket for his bed.

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Plan your next visit.

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A future trip gives him something to look forward to. Suggest some fun ideas of what you could do the next time you’re together, like heading to the beach, taking a hike, or just relaxing at home. One-on-one time together is a sure way to help him feel special and loved!^{[14]
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- You might try a new restaurant together, or plan a getaway to the mountains.

Community Q&A

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How can I spend time with my boyfriend?

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It can be hard to spend quality time with your boyfriend during a long-distance relationship, but it definitely isn’t impossible, either. You might plan a video date or virtual game night, or surprise him with a call. You can also plan ahead for the next time you’ll see each other in person.
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My boyfriend lives in Nebraska, and I live in Texas. I’m only 14 and he's 13. Can we make it work?

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It’s definitely possible! Long-distance relationships can work if you’re willing to put in the extra time and effort to spend time with your boyfriend. Try scheduling regular times to call and video chat, and send him plenty of texts, emails, and letters to let him know that you miss him.