How to Make Your Husband Happy

Keeping a marriage fresh and exciting can be challenging amidst the stress of daily life. Whether you just got married or you’re approaching your fiftieth anniversary, romantic relationships take a bit of thought and preparation to stay healthy and flourishing. Thankfully, there are small things that you can do to keep your husband happy and let him know that you love him more and more each day. Remember, you know your husband the best, so don’t be afraid to mix it up a little or try something you know he’ll love.

Method 1
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Cook him his favorite dinner.[1]

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    Does your husband love spaghetti and meatballs, or is he a dessert kind of guy? Whatever his favorite food is, try whipping it up when he’s had a hard day or you just want to show your appreciation for him.
    • The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, after all.
    • If you aren’t sure what to make, whip out a recipe book and try something you’ve never had before. You might just discover your new favorite dish!
    • Little things like this can let him know you’re thinking of him without a ton of effort.

Method 2
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Put on a sexy outfit.[2]

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    Flannel pajamas are cute, but what about some lingerie or some see-through undies? You can really rev his engine by prepping yourself for the bedroom.
    • There are tons of places to buy sexy outfits online, or you can visit an adult store in-person.
    • Make sure he’s in the mood before you change into your outfit—if he’s tired or grumpy, he might not fully appreciate the effort.

Method 3
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Spice up your sex life.[3]

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    No matter how long you’ve been together, sex is a huge part of romantic relationships. If you’re bored of your sex life as it is now, try spicing it up with something fresh. This doesn’t necessarily mean you have to run out and purchase a toy for the bedroom—it can be as simple as having sex in the morning when you usually have sex at night, trying sex in a different room than usual, or getting a little playful in the bedroom if you’re normally super serious.
    • If you aren’t sure what to try, ask him! You two can talk about some fun things to do together as a couple.

Method 4
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Give him a massage.[4]

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    Everyone likes a good shoulder rub after a tough day, and your husband is no exception. Sit him down, grab a bottle of lotion, and get to massaging his back, shoulders, and even his feet!
    • To make it a sensual massage, dim the lights and light some candles to set the mood.
    • Massages from a licensed massage therapist can be expensive, so a DIY one will show your love for him without breaking the bank. It’s a win-win!

Method 5
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Cook him breakfast in bed.[5]

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    Lazy Saturday mornings can only be improved by eating pancakes while cuddling in bed. Tell him to stay nestled in the blankets while you whip up a little breakfast and coffee. Put it on a tray for some specialized room service to make him feel great.
    • Stick to solid foods for breakfast in bed. Cereal and oatmeal are both delicious, but they have a tendency to spill—and when you’re eating over your pillow, that’s not something either of you want to deal with.

Method 6
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Grab a few gifts for him while you’re out.[6]

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    If you’re ever out shopping and spy an item that your husband would love, grab it! Surprise gifts are always welcome, and they’ll brighten his day no matter what.
    • The gifts don’t have to be huge or expensive. Candy, hats, T-shirts, underwear, or even some fun socks all show that you care about him.

Method 7
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Be a good listener.[7]

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    There are tons of distractions vying for your attention on a day to day basis. However, when your husband has something to say, you should give him your full attention. Think about how you’d like to be listened to when you talk, then do the same.[8] You can lead by example for a happier, healthier partnership.
    • Turn off the TV, put down your phone, and turn to look at him when he talks. Ask follow-up questions to show that you’re really listening, and add to the conversation, if you can.
    • For example, you could say something like, “That’s so interesting. Tell me more!” Or, “I bet that made you feel weird, huh?”

Method 8
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Say “Hi” and “Goodbye” to your husband.[9]

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    It may not sound like much, but greetings can make a huge difference. This will reassure him that you like spending time with him, and it lets him look forward to when you get to see each other again.[10]
    • When you get home from work, greet your husband enthusiastically with a long kiss.
    • When it’s time for one of you to leave, give him a hug and tell him you’re looking forward to seeing him later.

Method 9
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Schedule a weekly date night.[11]

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    It’s easy to get lost in work, kids, and responsibilities. However, date nights can let you reconnect as a couple and catch up with each other as partners, not as parents or managers of your household.
    • Try to do a date night at least once a week where you can go out to dinner or sit down for a meal just the two of you.
    • Maybe you two can take turns on coming up with date suggestions so you don’t feel bogged down with the responsibility.

Method 10
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Try new things together.[12]

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    Branching out to try new things is always fun, especially with your husband. Think of a few activities you’ve never done (either on your own or separately), then make a plan to try some of them out.
    • You could go snowboarding, jet skiing, fishing, wine tasting, or even snorkeling.
    • You might even find a new activity that you two can do together on a regular basis!
    • You can incorporate these new activities into your date nights, too.

Method 11
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Compliment your husband often.[13]

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    Men usually don’t get a lot of compliments, so they tend to remember them more. If your husband is looking cute today, did something sweet for you, or you’re just feeling plain lucky, give him a quick compliment to let him know you’re thinking about him.[14]
    • Even just a quick, “You look nice today babe” is a great confidence-booster.

Method 12
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Take over his chores if he had a bad day.[15]

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    Sometimes the day is extra tough, and your husband might be extra grumpy. To make him feel a little better, take over his chores or responsibilities, if you can. This doesn’t have to be an everyday thing, but it can make a hard day a little bit better.
    • If he normally cooks, take over for the night. If he usually folds the laundry, do it for him so he doesn’t have to worry about it.
    • Then, whenever you have a bad day, you might be able to ask him to take over your chores for the night. It’s a win-win situation!

Method 13
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Support your husband in trying new things.[16]

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    You may notice your husband change and grow the longer you’re together. If you notice your husband getting into a new hobby, career path, or professional field, let him know that you have his back and you’ll support him no matter what.
    • You can show an interest in his new hobby or job by asking questions and listening to him intently when he tells you about it.
    • Not having the support of your partner can make trying something new even more difficult, so it’s important to lift your husband up as he branches out.
    • If he’s trying something new that you’re interested in, see if you can join in too.

Method 14
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Bring up problems directly.[17]

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    Communication is a key factor in any relationship, but it’s ultra important in romantic ones. If you’re having issues with your relationship, sit down with your husband and talk. It can be scary to talk about your issues, so try facing the problem head on.[18]
    • For example, “Hey babe, can we talk? I wanted to have a conversation about keeping the house clean throughout the week.”
    • Then, use “I” statements, like, “When the house is dirty, I feel stressed out. Could we work on that together?”

Method 15
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Work on solving problems together.[19]

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    Every couple argues from time to time, and it’s healthy to work out your disagreements. However, if every argument leads to a yelling blowout, your problems might not be getting solved very effectively.
    • Try to work through problems with an “us vs. the problem” mentality, not “you vs. your husband.”
    • For example, maybe you feel like you’ve been doing all the housework. You can tell your husband how you feel by saying, “I think I’ve been taking on more responsibility around the house. Could we maybe set up a chore chart to divvy up the jobs evenly?”

Method 16
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Don’t forget to make time for yourself.[20]

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    Being a good partner also means taking care of your own needs. Make sure you’re eating well, practicing good hygiene, exercising regularly, and keeping a positive attitude. If you’re happy, your husband will be happy too!
    • Plus, getting some alone time is beneficial for both of you.

Community Q&A

  • Question
    My husband wants a baby and I'm not ready for one. What should I do?
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    This answer was written by one of our trained team of researchers who validated it for accuracy and comprehensiveness.
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    Having a child is a huge decision, and it should not be taken lightly. If you're not ready for a baby, you should not have a child yet. Sit down with your husband and talk about your future together and when you'd like to have kids.
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    I'm not romantic, and neither is my husband. What should we do?
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    Romance isn't for everyone! If it's not what makes you or your husband happy, you don't have to do romantic things. You know your partner the best, so stick to what makes you both happy.
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    What can I do to stop arguing with my husband?
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    Some arguments / disagreements are normal, but arguing all the time can indicate deeper issues. If you two can't seem to work out your problems on your own, you may consider seeing a couple's therapist.
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    How do I make sure my husband never stops loving me?
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    Be a good listener, be supportive and share well. Tell each other the things that matter and don't keep secrets. Set aside regular dates, to revive the romance. Support each other's changes in life, for growing and changing is inevitable but can be painful if one's partner fails to be supportive.
  • Question
    How do I make my husband happy if he thinks I'm controlling?
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    Stop controlling him! Men need respect like they need air to breathe. He needs you to be his wife, not his mother.
  • Question
    My problem is I don't know how to talk sweet words to my husband. He say he never hears sweet words from me?
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    Different people have different ideas of 'sweet', but for example, you can tell him you love him regularly, compliment him, and refer to him by pet names or terms of endearment (honey, sweetie, darling, etc.). Be sure to speak in a gentle, affectionate voice, and smile, as that can affect how your words come off. If he is still dissatisfied, he's probably the one with the problem. You can always ask him what he would like to hear, too.
  • Question
    My husband is argumentative sometimes. What can I do to diffuse our fights?
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    Say, "I love you, and I refuse to argue with you," then go to your happy place and don't respond to negativity.
  • Question
    Should I compliment the way my husband dresses?
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    Yes, absolutely! Or, you could compliment on anything you like about his appearance from time to time. Guys like to hear that, too!
  • Question
    Our argument turned into a fight, and now he's not talking to me. What should I do?
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    Men are good at being silent, and if you keep asking him why or trying to talk to him, things might get worse. Give him a little time and space for now, and try to talk it through calmly later on.
  • Question
    How can I help my husband conquer his vices?
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    You should always support him. Never criticise him. Make him understand the bad sides of the vices and the great impact of virtues.

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About This Article

Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW
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Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW
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This article was co-authored by Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW and by wikiHow staff writer, Hannah Madden. Kelli Miller is a Psychotherapist, Author, and TV/radio host based in Los Angeles, California. Kelli is currently in private practice and specializes in individual and couples' relationships, depression, anxiety, sexuality, communication, parenting, and more. Kelli also facilitates groups for those struggling with alcohol and drug addiction as well as anger management groups. As an author, she received a Next Generation Indie Book Award for her book "Thriving with ADHD: A Workbook for Kids" and also wrote "Professor Kelli's Guide to Finding a Husband". Kelli was a host on LA Talk Radio, a relationship expert for The Examiner, and speaks globally. You can also see her work on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/kellibmiller, Instagram @kellimillertherapy, and her website: www.kellimillertherapy.com. She received her MSW (Masters of Social Work) from the University of Pennsylvania and a BA in Sociology/Health from the University of Florida. This article has been viewed 1,317,643 times.
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If you want to make your husband happy, spice up your sex life to keep the flame alive. You can woo him at spontaneous times during the day or even send flirty text messages to him while he’s at work. Although you may be busy, make sure you make time for each other by setting up a date night once a week. You can go to dinner and a movie, set up a picnic, or go see your favorite bands in concert. Besides going on dates, spending time at home can be a great way to keep him happy. Consider working on a DIY home project together or cooking dinner together to enjoy each other’s company. To learn how to maintain your individuality to stay happy in your relationship, read on!

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