How to Leave a Note Signed 'Secret Admirer'

Last Updated: November 10, 2021

You have a crush on someone but you're too shy to reveal you do. Even though you want to tell them, you just don't know how. Follow these steps and your secret admirer note will be perfect for your crush.

Steps

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Use neat paper. Lined notebook paper will work best since you will not have sloped sentences and the layout will be neat. Make sure it is not wrinkled or damaged.
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Pick a writing utensil. A fairly new, standard pen or pencil is a good idea as it won't run out quickly. You can also use markers. Choose a color that will show clearly on the paper; pale colors on white paper won't show up very well.

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Be aware of how you write. If you write small, then practice writing bigger. If your letters take up two lines, shrink them a bit. They should fit comfortably on a lined sheet of paper, not overlapping or crowding the page.
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Keep your note/letter short, sweet, and to the point. You can go two ways: Poem, or an actual note.
1. For poems: Don't write too mushy. The last thing you want is for the person to be disgusted while reading about how you have a shrine to them. Comment on how pretty they are. The main things people love to be complimented on are, eyes, smile, and personality (how funny, nice, sweet, or kind they are).
2. If you choose just a standard note form, write it like a normal letter. Write about how you've noticed how beautiful they are, and how you think about them. Mostly when like "all the time" or if you want to be more creative, go with something like "every moment of the day".
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Use a "tracer". A "tracer" is a certain key phrase that is unique to your secret admirer notes. It should be a short phrase that is very easy to remember. You may use this as a P.S. side note or as your last sentence in each note. Just be sure you have consistency so your crush will know the notes are from the same person every time.
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Sign off. Write "Your Secret Admirer" in a much neater, more elegant script than the rest of the note. After the first note is received, you may choose to sign it as S.A., but to spell it out is more formal and mature.
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Send it. There are a number of ways to do this:
1. The easiest way to deliver the note, especially if you are in school, is to slide it in a locker vent. They will get it the moment they open their locker and be surprised.
2. Slip it in their books/backpack. Be careful with this one. Your cover will be instantly blown with one glance.
3. Hide it in their bedroom. This is only applicable if you know them well and have access to their house. Only do this if you are visiting with more than one person. If you were the only visitor at their house, your cover will be blown.
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Listen. If they talk about the note, they got it.
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Prepare the next ones. Your follow-up notes should be different, but just as sweet. Comment on recent changes to show you care, but make sure you use your "tracer". Your notes should be anywhere from a week to two and a half weeks apart. You want them to anticipate the notes, but not forget all about them.
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Meet. After you have written at least ten or fifteen notes, use your "tracer" as a way to reveal yourself. Maybe say it during a small conversation with them or in another conversation but loud enough they can hear. Use the surprise and shock in their eyes to let them strike up the million-dollar question: Are YOU my Secret Admirer?

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Community Q&A

Question

I am a girl and I want to write to my crush, but we are in fifth grade so we don't have lockers. Should I leave it at his desk when he leaves school?

Community Answer

You might want to consider putting it in his bag instead; leaving it at his desk allows too much opportunity for it to be seen by those for whom the note isn't intended.
Question

How do I leave a note signed "secret admirer" if I am not sure someone likes me?

Community Answer

Most people who leave secret admirer notes are unsure whether or not the other person likes them. If they knew they liked them, then there would be no need for a secret admirer note. Just give it to them and see what happens.
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How can I give a secret note to a guy I like, when I suspect he likes someone else?

Community Answer

If you're not certain that he's pursuing someone else, then just go with the note. However, if you determine that he is trying to start a relationship with someone else, then it's best not to interfere.
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Would these steps work if I'm a girl and have a crush on a girl?

Community Answer

Yes, of course.
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Should I leave a note in a bag?

Community Answer

Yes you can, so that they will know that they have a secret admirer.
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What can I do if my crush suspects that his secret admirer is someone else and not me?

Community Answer

You could write another note to your crush, giving him some kind of clue about your identity, or at least a clue that would lead him away from the person he suspects.
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How do I put it in her locker without anyone seeing?

Community Answer

Say you need to use the bathroom and do it then, when nobody is around. If you want to be extra careful, do it before or after school when the halls are empty.
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Where do I put it if I'm in a different class?

Community Answer

Ask your friend to give it to him/her. If you have lockers, then put it in his locker.
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Is it okay to send the note as an Instagram direct message?

Community Answer

If you do, the recipient will know who you are. If you're fine with that, then go for it!
Question

Can I do this at any age?

Community Answer

Any age is fine, as long as you are old enough and mature enough to know you love this person.

Warnings

Do not be too gushy. Be tasteful in complimenting.

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If it is too long, they may get bored. If it is too short, they may be left confused. Leave them with no more than a paragraph at a time.

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Never reveal your secret to someone else. No matter how much you trust them, it will get out.

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Hide the note when nobody else is looking to avoid exposure.

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