How to Know if Your Crush Likes You Back (for Guys)

Co-authored by Mark Rosenfeld

Last Updated: July 30, 2021

Figuring out if a girl likes you can be like trying to solve the riddle of the Sphinx. Luckily, this article is here to help you determine whether your crush likes you back. All you'll need are some observational skills and a little bravery.

Part 1

Part 1 of 5:
Testing with a Smile

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Do the smile test. If you look at her and she's already looking back at you, smile at her. Girls like it when the guy makes the first move. Hold the eye contact just for a second, then smile at her.^{[1]
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Expert Interview. 16 June 2021.} If she likes you, she'll smile back. If she doesn't like you, she'll give you a weird look or turn away.
- Smile with your eyes and make sure you have white teeth and a nice breath.
- Don't use the smile test unless you guys know each other. Don't try this with a crush that doesn't know you.
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Part 2

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Talking Together

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Start the conversation. Start with something simple like, "Hey, how was your weekend?" or if it's nearer the end of the week, "Hey, got anything planned for this weekend?". Always remember to say her name whenever you can. Girls love that.
- If she likes you, she'll keep the conversation going by asking you questions about your weekend- and you'll get into her life.
- If she just mumbles something like, "It was fine" and then goes back to what she was doing, she's probably not interested.
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Talk to her as much as possible. A lot of guys think that if they talk to a girl a lot then they'll think he's pathetic, or clingy, but that's just not true. Girls love it when you hang out with them and actually try to talk about all sorts of topics.^{[2]
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Listen carefully at all times. Try to relate to what she says, but don't try to be someone you're not.
- Don't daydream while she is talking, she'll hate that and find it a turn off.
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Part 3

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Being a Friend First

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Become friends with her. This is vital before continuing on with the next steps. You can only keep testing her interest if you are good friends. So, become good friends!
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Get to know about what kind of music she likes, her favorite TV show, her favorite celebrity, etc. Find out all that you can about stuff like that.
- If she likes you, this will turn into a conversation because she'll ask you what your interests are too.
- If she doesn't like you, it will sound more like an interview. It sounds creepy if you're just sitting there asking her all these questions and she's responding with one-word answers. If this is the case, stop the "conversation" immediately.
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Part 4

Part 4 of 5:
Using Touch to Observe Her Reactions

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Try the waist grab Test. Make sure you know each other a lot before you try this, or it will totally backfire!
- Sneak up on her from behind, and gently grab her waist. Don't squeeze her skin or anything, just put your hands on her waist and leave them there. She may freak out a little at this––remember, someone has just sneaked up on her and put their hands around her waist!
- If she jumps slightly or screams and turns around, says, "It's only me!" and then smile. Do not laugh. Keep your hands on her waist.
- If she likes you, she'll smile back and maybe giggle a little bit, then return to her original position. Your hands should still be on her waist. Notice whether or not she leans in closer to you. If she does, tighten your grip ever so slightly, but then let go.
- If she is not interested, she'll probably just laugh and walk away.
- If you two are shy friends, she'll probably ask why you're doing this, and how do you explain that? Have a ready answer prepared beforehand, such as "I was just feeling affectionate".
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Try the hug test. Note: only attempt this if the waist grab test was successful. Go up to her and hug her for no apparent reason. Make sure you hug her gently, not like you would with one of your guy friends. Put your hands on her upper back (steering well clear of her bra! ) and slowly rub your hand in up-and-down or circular motions. If she's interested, she'll hug you back.
- Notice whether her chin is resting on your shoulder. If it is, there's some chemistry there. Rest your chin on her shoulder too, and bow your head a little bit so it looks like you're looking at the ground.
- If she doesn't hug you back and moves away, she's not interested.
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Try to hold her hand. If you're lucky enough to sit together in a class, attempt to hold her hand. But this has to be done very carefully. Make sure her hand is off the table and resting on her seat. If she's right-handed, sit on the left side of her. If she's left-handed, sit on the right side of her. Slowly move your hand towards her and gently touch her wrist. She may jump a little at first; remember, this girl may like you.
- If she does, try to stay holding hands for the remainder of the lesson.
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Play with her hair. If she has a strand of hair in her face, gently tuck it behind her ear.
- If she's interested, she'll likely smile.
- If she's not interested, she'll likely move away.
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Do not flirt with other girls to see what her reaction is. If this girl does like you back, seeing you flirt with another girl will just make her feel stupid. She won't know you're doing it to see what her reaction is- she'll think you're doing it because you have a crush on the girl you're flirting with.

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Part 5

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Observing Her Reactions Toward You

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Notice whether she tries to touch you. If you reach something out for her to take, see if she gently touches your hand before she takes it. This may be a sign of her eagerness to get closer to you.^{[3]
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- Beware: It could just mean she bumped you by accident.
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Notice her playing with her hair, rubbing her lips, looking at her nails, or fiddling with her fingers. These are all possible signs that she's nervous and may mean that she's interested in you.
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Notice whether she makes eye contact while talking to you. If not, it could mean she is nervous, or just doesn't make eye contact, or doesn't like you.
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Notice some typical responses from a person who might fancy you. These include: Blushing, complimenting you often, giggling, making excuses to hang around you, teasing you, staring but looking away quickly when caught, hugging you and whispering to friends when you walk by.

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Community Q&A

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How do you get your crush to like you back?

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You can’t really control how your crush feels about you, but being your best self around them will help. Dress nicely and keep yourself well-groomed when you know you’ll be around them. Try to strike up a conversation with them, and keep it friendly and upbeat. Look for ways to show off your good qualities, like your kindness or sense of humor.
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How can I be cute to my crush?

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That depends a lot on what your crush is like, but the best thing you can do is be yourself. Be friendly and confident and let them see your good qualities. Wear clothes and hairstyles that flatter you and make you feel good, and practice good hygiene so you look and smell nice. Be kind around them and let your sense of humor shine.
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What are some physical signs your crush likes you?

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They might make prolonged eye contact, smile at you a lot, or look for reasons to get close to you or touch you. You might also notice them fiddling with their hair or even blushing when they talk to you.
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I am totally confused.there is this guy: he says i'm so vivacious,he locks eye contact with me & smiles at me.he stares at from afar & looks away fast.I get this feeling he likes me.is he into me/not?

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Those are all really good signs that he might like you! The only way to know for sure is to flirt with him or actually ask him.
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What if his friends are your friends and the whole class thinks I like him and he like me because they say we're a perfect match.

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It matters whether you like him! If the whole class is pressuring you, but you don't actually like him, then don't go out with him. But if they're on to something, and you do like him, then you can try hanging out with him and see if you enjoy it.
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If she says she’s dating but not sure if true and u like them what should I do

Maya Mahony

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If she tells you that she's dating someone else, that means she's trying to reject you, whether or not it's true that she actually is dating someone. Time to crush on someone else!
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My crush said he needed to talk to me in person or on the phone. He won't tell me what it's about. What does this mean?

Maya Mahony

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This could mean he wants to ask you out, or talk about something else that's serious. The only way to know is to actually talk to him.
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What does it mean if I keep making eye contact with my crush from across the room. If we make eye contact doesn't that mean he has robe looking at me too.

Maya Mahony

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There's a good chance he was looking at you too if you keep making eye-contact. This could be a good sign! However if you stare at him all the time, he might just look at you because he can feel you staring... Best way to know is to try to talk to him and see how the conversation goes.
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There's is this girl from my class... She always stares at me most of the time and then when I caught her starring at she still holds eye contact at me and then I look away

Maya Mahony

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That's a good sign she thinks you're cute! Try talking with her some day after class if you're interested in her too.
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What if your sense of humor isn't good or your kind of depressed

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Make a list of your other great qualities to remind yourself of how wonderful you are. Maybe you are caring, or hardworking, or make beautiful art. There are plenty of other wonderful qualities to have besides a sense of humor. Also, tons of people struggle with mental health and still find love. There will be plenty of people who will like you for you!

Warnings

If the two of you aren't good enough friends, the waist grab test and the hug test won't go down well. If you're in doubt, do some more talking before starting on the action.

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Don't avoid her to hang with the guys. She won't like you for that.

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