How to Kiss Your Boyfriend for the First Time (Middle School Girls)

Co-authored by Hannah Madden

Last Updated: January 10, 2021 Approved

You found the guy you really like, and now you two are dating. Is it time to kiss? If you answered yes to that question, keep reading.

Steps

1
Be willing and ready. First off, make sure you are kissing for you, not because your friends dared you to, or you have been dating so long you are far past the make out point. Do this for you, so make sure you are ready to kiss him, both physically and emotionally.
2
Get the obvious stuff out of the way. Have a fresh breath, soft lips, look nice, and make sure that the "touch barrier" has been broken with hugs, and flirtatious gestures.
3
Get into the right place. This task is harder than people think, if it's hard to get into a place that is private, then the school might be the best place there is for now, just make sure that you aren't being watched by a teacher or any other unwanted viewer.
4
Talk for a moment. If it's the end of the day, and you both are about to go your separate ways, then now is your chance, give him a hug and hold it for about 5 seconds, then pull back a bit, but don't move your arms.
5
Look into his eyes. Forget about being nervous. Think about this going great, because if you do this step properly, kissing will be the easiest thing in the world. Look into his eyes, tilt your head just a bit to avoid colliding, and lean in and gently close your eyes, and kiss him.
6
Don't forget to breath (breath gently in and out of your nose) and kiss his bottom lip. Hold the kiss for about 10 seconds, keeping your eyes closed, after about 10 seconds, pull away, smile at him, and be happy for the rest of the day.

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My boyfriend is uncomfortable with kissing but I want us to kiss. What should I do?

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Always respect the person who you want to kiss, and don't force anything on them. If your boyfriend is uncomfortable with kissing, you should wait until he's ready.
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So my friends dared me to kiss my bf. Does that count as our first kiss?

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If you and your boyfriend have kissed and you want to count it as your first one, then yes, it counts! But if you did it because of a dare and you want a re-do, you 2 can always kiss again at a more appropriate time and count that one as your first kiss instead. It's up to you and your boyfriend to decide what your first kiss is.
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What if he doesn't want to be kissed and freaks out? I'd be so embarrassed.

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If your boyfriend doesn't want to kiss you, that's okay! Not everyone is ready to kiss in middle school. You should respect his wishes and try not to take it personally. If you're worried he might not be ready, try asking him directly.
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How do I kiss my boyfriend for the first time in middle school?

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If you're ready to kiss your boyfriend for the first time, try to find a relatively private location away from parents or teachers, and start up a conversation. When the moment seems right, give him a tight hug and hold it for a few seconds. When he goes to pull away, pull back a little bit, but don't move your arms. Look into his eyes and lean in gently to kiss him. After a few seconds, pull away and simply enjoy the awesome moment.
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How do you know if a boy wants to kiss you in middle school?

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You can try to find out if he likes you by asking his friends. If you're too nervous to do that, ask your friends to ask him or his friends if he likes you. If he does, then he'll most likely want to kiss you. If you like him back, you could try talking to him or passing him a note to tell him how you feel. It could lead to a meaningful relationship.
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How do guys feel when they kiss?

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Well, they probably feel a lot like a girl does! It's probably a mixture of excited, nervous, and happy, especially if they really like you and you have a relationship together. But, if you ever want to know what your boyfriend feels whenever you kiss him, then just ask him. He may feel a little uncomfortable at first, but if you tell him how happy it makes you to kiss him, he'll open up and tell you about is feelings.