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If you have a significant other, you know that there comes a time when you feel the urge to hold their hand. This is normal. It's okay to show affection and love to your significant other. Typically, couples start holding hands on the third day of "going out" at the earliest. Read on to find out more on how to hold hands, and how to react to your partner if they don't seem to want to hold your hand: Just try the next time you guys go out.
Steps
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1Put your hand near theirs. This works well if you are sitting or walking next to each other, but make sure their hand is at their side. Hold your hand very close to theirs, even maybe touching a bit, but look straight ahead. Don't freak out or stare down at your hands.
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2Move your hand even closer, and soon, very slowly put your hand in theirs. Try brushing your hand against theirs. Say that you want to compare you skin tones. This is a great way to get closer to holding their hand. Close it around their hand. This would be a good time to look up at them. If they just stare at you, smile. If they pull away, just quit all together. They are just not ready to do this yet.Advertisement
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3Watch for signals. If your significant other seems to be enjoying themself, holding hands with you, this is good. They are comfortable with this, and if you think you are ready, intertwine your fingers in theirs. They will eat this up!
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4Proceed at the right pace! You are holding hands with your cutie! Yay! If they don't like it, don't worry! They are nervous and just not ready! If they pull away, do not try to hold hands with them again that day!
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5Move on to hugs, more touching, and maybe a little kissing! This is a slower process. Do not move into this too fast. If you do, they will think that you are a creep and will make fun of you behind your back.
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6Be understanding! It's okay if they either jerk away, or look down. Everyone has their own speed. If you freak out they will understand. But just keep trying different days until they are ready. If you don't feel comfortable, you are okay! Holding hands isn't the most important thing to do in a relationship.Advertisement
Community Q&A
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QuestionWhat can I do if my boyfriend is ready to go to the next stage but I am not?
Community AnswerThen you let him know how you feel and you don't go on to the next stage until you are ready. Don't let anyone pressure you into anything you're uncomfortable with. -
QuestionWhat should I do if my hands get sweaty when I am nervous?
Community AnswerJust inconspicuously wipe it on your side. -
QuestionWhat if they don't want to hold my hand?
Community AnswerIf they don’t want it hold your hand, don’t force it. They might just not be ready yet, or they might not like holding hands. Not everybody does. -
QuestionHow do I hold hands with my boyfriend if he is taller than me?Community AnswerIt really doesn't matter if he's taller than you, just ask if he wants to hold hands. If you find it uncomfortable to hold hands while standing because of his height, just hold hands while seated.
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QuestionIs it weird to not hold hands if I've been dating someone for a while?
Community AnswerNo, it is not. If you don't feel comfortable with it, then that's your choice. Don't let anyone pressure you into doing something that you don't want to do/don't feel comfortable with doing yet, and don't try to pressure anyone else into doing something they're not comfortable with. -
QuestionWhose hand should go on top?Community AnswerWhatever you're both most comfortable with - there's no standard for this.
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QuestionHow could I hold his hand without telling him to do it, or what if I want to hold his hand at the park where my friends are?Community AnswerIf you want to hold hands with him but you don't want to ask/tell him, just reach out and take his hand. As for doing it in front of your friends, that's really up to you. Your friends might tease you about it a little bit, but that's not really such a huge deal.
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QuestionWhat if we've only been together for four weeks?Community AnswerThere's no set period of time for when you should hold hands. Do it when you feel ready. Four weeks is a pretty long time, so if you feel comfortable, it's perfectly fine if you want to hold your girl/boyfriend's hand.
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QuestionIs it weird to hold hands if we just recently became boyfriend and girlfriend?Community AnswerIf you're both ready, then it's perfectly fine.
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QuestionWhat is the best way to hold someone's hand?Community AnswerInterlacing your hands with your partner is more romantic, but the alternative may be more comfortable if you're just starting out in a relationship.
Warnings
- This could possibly ruin a relationship if tried too early in a relationship, but, typically not.Thanks!
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