How to Have a Happy, Adventurous, and Relaxed Life

Last Updated: December 23, 2021 References

Sadly, life isn't always happy, adventurous and relaxed. If you want to change your life and begin to live a life of happiness, adventure and relaxation follow these steps, starting at number one below.

Method 1

Method 1 of 11:
Sleep well.

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Method 2

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Get up at the same time every day.

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This will give you the discipline you need in your life. Without a little discipline you can achieve nothing. For adventure, happiness and relaxation, don't have a Sunday lay in or enjoy a cosy breakfast in bed on your day off, always get up at the same time, every day.^{[2]
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Method 3

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Talk with people.

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Be it your family or friends, talking to people that you like helps you keep in a cheerful frame of mind.^{[3]
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Method 4

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Don't think too much.

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This is a key point to remember. Always remember that you are allowed to stop thinking whenever you want. You don't have to calculate how long will it take to end the road trip you are on. It's useless to do so and only hinders your enjoyment of the trip. All the useless thinking should be thrown out.^{[4]
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Method 5

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Get out of the house.

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Go to places you have never been before. Talk to complete strangers. Try new things with a smile on your face. Have new experiences, try new foods, new hobbies, new music and new forms of entertainment.

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Method 6

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Keep moving.

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Don't just sit in one position for hours thinking about the theory of relativity or dwelling on your worries! Don't sit in one place too long, if you don't move you are not living, according to some.

Method 7

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Do moderate physical exercise.

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Moderate physical exercises such as walking, is very beneficial and will help you feel good about life, have adventures, be happy and relax.^{[5]
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Method 8

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Avoid unnecessary stress.

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If you shout and get stressed about small things just to satisfy your ego, you are just stressing yourself out.
- That said, learn to recognize when you're stressed and try to be compassionate towards yourself. Don't beat yourself up just because you're going through some hardships.^{[6]
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Method 9

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Be happy.

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Be happy with who you are and happy with yourself. Try to be happy with life in general. When you are looking to be happy, adventurous and relaxed, you need to live the best life you can.

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Method 10

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Find ways to relax.

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Be calm, avoid stress, make time for yourself to unwind after your adventures and keep yourself happy. You can relax by meditating, taking a relaxing bath, having a spa day or simply relaxing with a good book.

Method 11

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Seek adventure.

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Whilst regular moderate physical exercise is beneficial, the adrenaline rush of going hard at a sport or activity you love can provide some of the adventure you are seeking. Ski a black run, mountain bike somewhere steep, try a new move on the trampoline, break your own personal best record, take on someone better than you at a competitive sport, run further, walk faster, dance longer, swim in deep water, whatever, challenge yourself to let adventure be the rule in your life, not the exception and make your life more exciting.

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Expert Q&A

Question

How do you stay calm in difficult times?

Carolyn Rubenstein, PhD
Licensed Clinical Psychologist
Dr. Carolyn Rubenstein is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist based in Florida. She specializes in working with adults on anxiety, perfectionism, and burnout. She is also the Chief Wellness Adviser for global esports organization Misfits Gaming Group. Dr. Rubenstein holds a BA in Psychology from Duke University, an MA in Psychology from Harvard University, and a PhD in Counseling Psychology from The University of Miami. She also has a Certification in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing through the EMDRIA (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing International Association).

Carolyn Rubenstein, PhD

Licensed Clinical Psychologist

Expert Answer

Put on your curiosity hat and try looking at the situation from a different perspective. It might be fun to talk out loud with yourself about what's going on. Try journaling and talking with someone else to give yourself more flexibility and range when dealing with difficulties.
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How do I stop being so unhappy?

Carolyn Rubenstein, PhD
Licensed Clinical Psychologist
Dr. Carolyn Rubenstein is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist based in Florida. She specializes in working with adults on anxiety, perfectionism, and burnout. She is also the Chief Wellness Adviser for global esports organization Misfits Gaming Group. Dr. Rubenstein holds a BA in Psychology from Duke University, an MA in Psychology from Harvard University, and a PhD in Counseling Psychology from The University of Miami. She also has a Certification in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing through the EMDRIA (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing International Association).

Carolyn Rubenstein, PhD

Licensed Clinical Psychologist

Expert Answer

Look for ways that you can get support for what is causing the problems in your life. What things can help decrease the weight you're feeling? Is there a person that can help you gain control over the situation? Look for simple ways to get outside help whenever possible.
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What is the root of unhappiness?

Carolyn Rubenstein, PhD
Licensed Clinical Psychologist
Dr. Carolyn Rubenstein is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist based in Florida. She specializes in working with adults on anxiety, perfectionism, and burnout. She is also the Chief Wellness Adviser for global esports organization Misfits Gaming Group. Dr. Rubenstein holds a BA in Psychology from Duke University, an MA in Psychology from Harvard University, and a PhD in Counseling Psychology from The University of Miami. She also has a Certification in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing through the EMDRIA (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing International Association).

Carolyn Rubenstein, PhD

Licensed Clinical Psychologist

Expert Answer

There's no simple answer to this question. I would try looking at kind of where some of your problems are coming from. Try looking underneath, at what's fueling the chaos in your life. It's also important to know if your unhappiness comes from one source or multiple sources. Having that knowledge is really powerful.