How to Get an Aquarius Woman to Open Up

Co-authored by Angel Eyedealism and Amber Crain

Last Updated: December 17, 2021 References

Aquarius women are known for their brilliant minds and unique personalities, but showing emotion does not come easily to them. If you're trying to get an Aquarius to open up, you'll find that they can be hard nuts to crack—but not impossible! To get closer to the Aquarius woman in your life, check out this handy list of ideas.

Method 1

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Be there for her through thick and thin.

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Aquarius women value friendship and loyalty above all. If you want to get an Aquarius woman to open up to you, build a solid friendship with her first. No matter what, stick by her and voice your support often. If she knows you’re in her corner and she can count on you, she's more likely to trust you with her thoughts.^{[1]
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- Don’t try to rush into anything beyond friendship—keep things platonic until you get closer to her.^{[2]
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  Angel Eyedealism
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  Expert Interview. 8 December 2021.} If you're interested in a romantic relationship, you can build up to that slowly.
- You might say something supportive like, "I know you're upset about not getting that job, but you have so many awesome skills. Don't give up! Just keep looking for positions; I know you'll find something."
- You could say, "I'm so sorry your dog passed away. It's hard when our fur babies leave us. I know there's nothing I can say to fix it, but I'm here for you. Anything you need, just text me and I'm there."

Method 2

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Share knowledge and unique insights.

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Boring small talk won’t get you very far with this intellectual sign.^{[3]
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Angel Eyedealism
Astrologer & Performance Artist
Expert Interview. 8 December 2021.} An Aquarius woman prizes intellect and values anyone who can teach her something interesting, challenge her imagination, and hold their own in a philosophical conversation. Don’t be afraid to share any special knowledge you have—the more unconventional, the better.^{[4]
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- There's nothing too taboo for discussion, so don't be afraid to bring up esoteric topics or obscure philosophies. She’s likely to respond enthusiastically!
- Aquarius folks tend to be drawn to topics like science fiction, technology, writing, social activism, and anything avant garde.^{[5]
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Method 3

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Be a little mysterious.

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If you lay all your cards on the table right away, she’ll get bored. Aquarius women have creative imaginations and love nothing more than a little romantic intrigue. You absolutely need to be genuine around her (she’ll see right through you if you aren’t!), but she’ll appreciate a little mystery, too. If you can keep her guessing and avoid being predictable, you’re more likely to draw her in.^{[6]
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- For example, resist the urge to tell her what you're up to all the time. If she can envision everything you're doing in vivid detail, she might start thinking you're predictable.

Method 4

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Express opinions without being confrontational.

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She’ll clam up if the conversation gets heated or overly emotional. Aquarius women are known for being analytical, logical, and emotionally detached. They love a lively debate, but if the discussion takes a negative turn or gets emotionally challenging, they'll quickly check out. She wants to know your opinion, but share it calmly and rationally.^{[7]
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- Aquarius women tend to be very open-minded, especially if you present a good argument. If you want to sway her opinion on anything, you'll need facts and statistics to back up your words. That said, they're willing to hear almost any theory because they're very curious!

Method 5

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Ask her deep, open-ended questions.

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If you want to get an Aquarius woman talking, make her think.^{[8]
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Angel Eyedealism
Astrologer & Performance Artist
Expert Interview. 8 December 2021.} This sign loves to talk about psychology, philosophy, art, technology, and anything out of the ordinary. With those topics in mind, come up with some interesting questions for her that she can’t answer with a simple “yes” or “no.” Aim for deep, stimulating inquiries that aren't overly emotional.^{[9]
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- If you could study anything in the world, what would you choose?
- Do you dream often? If you do, what sorts of things do you dream about?
- What change would you most like to see in our current society?

Method 6

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Be an active listener.

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Make sure she knows you’re listening to her closely. Aquarius folks are great listeners themselves, so they prize that quality in others, too—especially when it comes to potential romantic partners. It takes a lot for them to open up and it’s crucial to show that you’re paying attention. You can do things like:^{[10]
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- Put away your phone
- Make eye contact
- Nod as she talks
- Ask questions about what she says
- Tell her you want to know more

Method 7

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Keep an open mind.

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Most Aquarius women are forward-thinking and progressive. She’ll lose interest in talking with you pretty quickly if you prove yourself to be narrow-minded. If you want her to open up to you, be willing to consider and talk about different worldviews objectively. She might share some pretty radical views with you, so buckle up! Be willing and able to follow along with anything she brings up.^{[11]
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- For example, she might take a very liberal stance on political issues. If you're fairly conservative, don't try to convert her and definitely don't tell her she's wrong.
- Since Aquarius folks tend to be interested in unusual topics, she might bring up her interest in ghosts and paranormal activity. Just roll with it!

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Bond over community activities or volunteer work.

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Aquarius folks tend to be humanitarians who love a good cause. She may seem emotionally detached, but Aquarian women thrive on helping others. Making society a better and more inclusive place is extremely important to them. Invite her to get involved with a community project or volunteer at a local shelter together. She’ll be impressed and think of you as a kindred spirit. This is a great foundation if you're interested in building a romantic relationship with her.^{[12]
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- Since Aquarius folks tend to be progressive, she might participate in protests or marches for humanitarian rights. If she mentions something like that to you and you're interested in joining the cause, ask if you can tag along next time.

Method 9

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Give her plenty of space.

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The last thing you want to do is try to control an Aquarius! They’re free spirits who thrive on independence. She will not tolerate a partner who tries to tell her what to do or control her in any way. Give her space to march to the beat of her own drum and support her independence every chance you get.^{[13]
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- It may sound contradictory, but giving an Aquarius the right amount of space can actually help you get closer to them!