How to Get Your Crush to Go out With You

Last Updated: December 9, 2019 References

Almost every pre-teen has a crush but won't admit it to the crush. They may want to go out with their crush or they may try to communicate. Sometimes, they do communicate feeling scared, excited, or both but not showing it. Here's how to get your crush to go out with you!

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Getting to know your crush

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Get to know each other. Talk to each other. Take it easy if your crush is shy. Talk about each other's interests, favorite movies, video games, music, etc.^{[1]
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Start doing stuff together. Once you've become friends, start partnering up in science class, trying to be on the same team in gym, playing sports together at recess, or just hanging out at the park to do some studying or skateboarding. It's always important to do something your crush likes to do, without making it seem like a date. Do not try to give hugs or affectionately touch each other in any way. You guys are just friends at this stage.

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Take it one step further. Make sure your crush is single. Once you think your crush likes you, start doing more activities together. When going to a field trip, go to interesting spots together. When you think you want to be more than friends, and you are ready, try asking the other to go out. Don't tell your friends what you're trying to do no matter how trustworthy they may be. They will find a way to embarrass you in front of your crush. Keep what you are doing together a secret; it's your personal business.^{[2]
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Play it cool. You really need to let your special someone know that you're cool. Don't be up in their face or act weird. They'll start to like you.^{[3]
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Part 2

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Getting a date

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Ask them out. Once you guys are real good friends, go in for the big step. Ask them out. Make it simple. Don't go all crazy with the drama and flowers and all that crap. Just make it sound like your asking what the day's home work was.^{[4]
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- Say something like: Would you mind going ____________with me on Friday?
- Or: Do you want to go to __________ with me next weekend?
Keep it really simple. If you make it too sudden or harsh, they may take it the wrong way.
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Deal with their response. If they say yes, good for you, you have a date. If they say no, don't go all big with the cold shoulder and drama. Maybe your crush just wanted to be friends. Treat that as a compliment––you don't know the future, so stay good friends instead.^{[5]
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Avoid pestering your crush. They will get the wrong message.^{[6]
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Warnings

Don't fall into the trap of getting too comfortable as friends, or else your crush may begin to think of you as a close friend rather than a potential romantic partner. You've got to keep your intentions clear.

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