How to Fight (Girls)

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Last Updated: October 21, 2021 References Approved

Boys aren't the only ones who get in fights: girls fight too! If you know you're going to have to fight another girl and you're scared, let wikiHow help. It's always better to try to find a peaceful solution to the problem but if you can't then you need to be able to defend yourself.

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Try to find a different solution first. You should always talk to a parent or teacher before fighting. Try to find another way to solve your problems that doesn't include violence.^{[1]
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Expert Interview. 17 September 2019.} We know that you don't want to seem lame to the other girls, but if the other girls only like you for being tough then they don't really like you at all. They aren't your true friends and they never could be.^{[2]
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- Fighting can have lots of bad consequences for you. If you really, seriously hurt the other girl, even if she started the fight, you could go to jail or get in trouble with the police. This can happen even by accident, so it's better to steer away if you can.
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Do not ever fight on school grounds. Plan to have the fight outside the school grounds. Fighting on school grounds could further increase your chances of getting suspended or even expelled. However its important to note that even if you choose to fight away from the school, you are still very likely to get into trouble with your school for fighting as it is an unacceptable way to behave and solve a problem.
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Have backup, always. Chances are if the girl is a good fighter, her friends will jump in so you need some to do the same. This can keep you from getting seriously hurt. With a few friends in tow, the fight will probably stay smaller, since no one will let it get really out of control. Just make sure to tell your friends that you want to keep the fighting to a minimum. They're there to protect you only!
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Refrain from throwing the first punch. You want to avoid fighting if at all possible. Argue with her or try to talk her down: whatever you do just don't be the first one to start fighting. If you hold your ground and don't say anything too angering, you might not have to fight at all.^{[3]
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- Try using dialogue (talking) to shut the fight down. Say something like, "I'm tired of all this arguing. It's not going to change anything. Can't we just stay out of each others way?" or "Is this really going to fix this problem? I want us both to walk away happy."^{[4]
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Look for weaknesses. While she's talking, stay calm and assess how you think she's vulnerable. If she's shorter - bear down on her. If she's taller go for her legs and her midsection. If she has long hair grab a handful and pull her head down so she can't see.^{[5]
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Lean into a punch. You should angle your head if you see she's about to punch you so that your forehead or top of your head gets hit instead. This will hurt her hands and could help in discouraging further punching. Furthermore, it will do less damage to your body. Your skull is very strong!
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Turn to the side, to avoid stomach punches. If she's trying to punch your stomach, move your body so that she hits your side instead. This will protect your body and keep you form getting too badly injured.
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Kick if you fall to the ground. Absolutely avoid getting on the ground but if you fall to the ground, kick at your attacker to keep them away from you. Look for an opportunity to get up but don't turn away from the other girl. Roll into a ball to protect yourself if this doesn't work out.^{[6]
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Avoid hitting with your fist. Most people hold their fist wrong and you can end up hurting yourself. Instead, hold your fist in one hand and hit with your elbow.
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Aim for where it hurts. Try to hit in sensitive areas if you're going to hit.^{[7]
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Expert Interview. 17 September 2019.} The groin, chest, stomach, face, knees, feet and hands are all easy to hurt.^{[8]
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Let her tire herself out. Dodge as many hits as you can. Let her move and keep her moving. This will make her tired and help end the fight sooner.
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Use a disabling move. You want to get her onto the ground to try to bring the fight to an end. The best way to do this is to use her own body against her. Grab her pinky, and pull it back towards her elbow. Her arm will follow. Guide the arm so that it goes behind her back and then push her down to the ground. Place your knee at the center of her back and hold her arm in place until she calms down.
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Trick her. The best thing to do in a fight, is trick the opponent. Throw your arms out, as if to punch her, and when she grabs your hands, kick her where it hurts.
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Act. In a fight, if you get punched or kicked, but it didn't really hurt, act. Fall to the ground screaming and crying, she'll laugh and laugh. When she least expects it, get up and do what you need to do, this is a fight, after all!

Community Q&A

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How can I win in a fist fight?

Tsahi Shemesh
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Tsahi Shemesh is a self-defense expert, specializing in Krav Maga. Shemesh is the Founder and Program Director of Krav Maga Experts in New York City. He has certified hundreds of instructors, and his curriculum is taught in over a dozen countries worldwide.

Tsahi Shemesh

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Expert Answer

If you truly need to resort to violence, aim for a vulnerable area like the head or groin.
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Should I wear loose or tight fitting clothes to fight?

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You should wear tight-fitting clothes so your opponent can't pull your clothing. If you wear loose clothing, your opponent can pull you around by your clothes.
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What do I do if the girl has long nails?

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You have an advantage as she is not going to be able to punch that hard, as the nails get in the way of making a fist. On the other hand, she can scratch you; if she does and it's near your face, grab her hand and twist. Make sure you bend her backward when you twist her hand, then kick her back. Let her go; she will automatically fall.
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Why do girls pull hair when they fight?

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Hair is easy to grab and makes an excellent handle. Because it is attached to the opponent's head, it is easy to lead the opponent around once you get a good grip.
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How do I fight back if a wild girl is flinging hits?

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Dodge her hits by jumping back or moving around. Find her sensitive spot and use that to your advantage.
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How do I get her on the ground?

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Get low and grab her legs with your arms; then push forward. She will fall down backward. If she pulls you down with her, it is still a good move because you will come down on top of her.
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How do you pose when you fight?

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Place the legs apart for balance and steadiness. Have the hands ready to protect and always keep an eye open and watch your opponent -- never look down.
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What is the proper way to throw a punch?

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Throw any punches so your arms stay level with your shoulders. If you have your chin down and the punch comes out straight, the shoulder will rise automatically and further protect your chin. Throw out the jab, but don't throw it too hard - it's a range-finder. Then detonate your cross.
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What if the girl I fight is taller than me?

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Use her height against her. If she dives in toward you, use speed and timing to lunge out of her reach. You can also shove her shoulder in the same direction as she lunges to throw her off balance.
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What is the first step in disabling my opponent?

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Go for vulnerable places like the eyes, stomach, groin, or breasts. Also, hitting them in the nose causes severe pain and makes them tear up so they can't see. Once you have them stunned, knock them to the ground by kicking their knees from behind.

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Warnings

Getting into a fight is not the answer to solving any problems you are having with another person. Not only do you risk getting seriously hurt, you also risk facing expulsion from your school or college, or/and a criminal record, neither of which will help your future.

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