How to Be Ready and Comfortable Kissing a Guy

Last Updated: February 20, 2020

You've been dreaming about this kiss for ages. In your fantasies, it always goes perfectly, but reality is never quite the same. To make sure you're ready and comfortable for the kiss, it's important to make a few real-life preparations. You can prepare yourself by primping with some perfume, giving yourself a pep talk, and leading up to the kiss with some cuddling. Your real life kiss might not resemble one from your dreams, but if you're ready and comfortable, it will feel even better.

Steps

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Spray nice perfume. Guys love girls that will smell good, but don't spray too much - "less is more". It's recommended to be sprayed on the neck, wrists and if you want, all over your chest.^{[1]
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Research source} Fun fact: It's scientifically proven that boys are attracted to the scent of vanilla!^{[2]
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Tell yourself that everything will be okay. Because it will be okay! Nothing bad is going to happen. Plus it's "your" choice that you're doing this, nobody else's. You can always say no if you want to. But once you get into the kissing - you'll enjoy, and will be fine!

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Start by cuddling. Never just go in for the kiss unless you want to and you know your partner is okay with it too.^{[3]
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Research source} This will ease any nerves you have too.
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Slowly look up at him.^{[4]
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Research source} Start giggling gently and look into his eyes, this will ease his nerves because he knows that you're comfortable. Maybe take his hand and give it a squeeze.
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Look at his lips. And then look back up at his eyes. This is hinting you'd like a kiss.^{[5]
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The guy should then get the idea and you should both lean in and make the kiss natural.
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At the end, don't make it awkward. Say something or giggle. Maybe squeeze his hand again. Or create a sudden goodbye. You could nicely say, "I've got to go now, but I'll speak later."

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Warnings

If your guy pushes you further into anything other than a kiss, and you don't want to, do NOT let him. He does not have the right to do that.

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