How to Be "That Girl"

Last Updated: November 23, 2021

You know "that girl". She's the one who is not over-showy, always leaves an after-image of her presence and is the kind of girl they write songs about. She's pretty, unique and friendly – all without being fake or too sweet. If you're interested in being this sort of girl, consider adapting the characteristics described here.

Steps

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Select a suitable hairstyle. Choose a haircut you know will flatter you. There are good choices to select from a favored celebrity or even people around you. Ask a few friends if you think the haircut would look good on you, and get advice from the hair stylist as well. Bring a picture of that celeb or photos of your friend's hair-do next time you get your hair cut. Ask to get a similar cut while also seeking the stylist's input. Consider the effectiveness of having subtle highlights rather than bold streaks which look dated. Most hair colors could use a little warmth, so ask for a richer, subtle tone.
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Care for your skin. It is essential to create a near-flawless canvas – bad skin is every girl's worst nightmare. Ask your dermatologist for advice on products to try. Never abide dirty skin, always cleanse and moisturize your face at morning and night especially, because in the morning your skin will be that much softer and healthier. Ask your dermatologist what he/she thinks would be good for your skin if it's really bad.
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Wear just a little make-up. The best tip is to buy the Sephora Beauty Guide. But remember - less is more. A baby-rose blush is essential for glowy skin. Concealer for zits, dark circles and redness, but only dust your skin-toned foundation where it is needed. And if you're wearing a lot of make-up, don't wear lip gloss – it will just make the face make-up stand out too much. Wear a nude-pink lipstick to make your lips look fuller and natural. Blonds are better off not wearing black or colored mascara; opt instead for brown.But if you don't have make up thats ok work that natural beauty

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Select quality clothes. Style is easy for some people, harder for others. Think of one rule - more than four colors is overkill, and at least one color in your outfit should match something else in the outfit. For example, say you're wearing a yellow floaty shirt, a pink tiered skirt over blue embroidered jeans, and gray sneakers; a yellow cardigan, pearl earrings and a necklace, and a white, yellow, blue, and pink patterned bag would look great and pull together the teen-casual bohemian-classy look. Remember, in the words of Coco Chanel, "When accessorizing, always take off the last thing you put on."
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Work on the best parts of your personality. This is key. Be confident, but not in a "look-at-me" way. Don't put yourself down a lot like some girls do. If anyone asks you if you think you're pretty, give a tiny shrug and say, "I think I look fine." Be nice to everybody, even people you don't much like, and practice effective, assertive comebacks, but never get into serious fights. Hang around with at least one respected and nice girl, and have a list of people you can call up to do something fun with. Popularity doesn't have to be an episode of Gossip Girl.
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Be happy. Laugh a lot and smile too. When you're walking or sitting on a plane or something, have a dreamy little smile on your face. You'll look like a girl with a good secret, like someone has a crush on you or something. Fact - smiling people look more attractive than frowns. Practice your expressions in the mirror.
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Imagine you look like your favorite celebrity and watch things with them a lot. You'll start to unconsciously imitate some of their gestures.
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Flirt. When you flirt, do it in a genuine way and work at least one compliment into every long conversation, but not too many. Guys love being flattered, as do girls! If you ask a guy out and he turns you down, keep your poise and remeber he's not worth it.
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Enjoy life. This is a cliché, but life is short. Live a little, carpe diem. Someone asks you to do something fun but you're sulking, go do it. Otherwise you'll just sit feeling sorry for yourself. Always take that opportunity and do it.

Community Q&A

Question

Is there still a way to turn into that girl if I get bullied?

Community Answer

Yes. One has nothing to do with the other, and if you're being bullied, let a trusted adult know about it.
Question

What do I do if don't want to completely turn into a different person, but still want to be "that girl"?

Community Answer

You don't change your personality, you just enhance it. Show off your good qualities, and work on improving your bad ones.
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What should I do if I love to wear boy's clothing and act like a tomboy?

Community Answer

Then go ahead! You should always be you and never change for anyone else. You should still be nice to everyone you meet, though.
Question

Can I still wear quality clothes if I wear an EpiPen?

Community Answer

Sure. I've known some people with allergies with really cute EpiPen cases so if you want, you can use one of those too.
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How can I still be "that girl" if I'm scared of being judged by others? I'm pretty popular, but not super popular, and it is hard to be myself around more popular kids.

Community Answer

If you’re super popular, you run the risk of being judged as snobby or mean. Being well-liked is good, and you don’t have to worry about popularity too much. Also remember, people only notice about 20% of what you do. The little things won’t matter in the long term, and most of the time the reaction you get is, “Wow, she’s brave for speaking up in class,” not, “OMG, she’s a nerd for answering a question.”
Question

How can I get my crush to like me?

Community Answer

Just be yourself! If your crush doesn’t like you for who you are, it's not meant to be.
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How do I become beautiful and sweet when I don't feel like a good person?

Community Answer

Usually, if there's something bothering you, like drama, it's usually best to stay away from it, because drama makes you salty and not be able to trust people. And, don't overdo the makeup. Just some concealer to cover up zits, dark circles, and redness, and a light pink blush. Also, don't put yourself down because statistics show that we're 20% more attractive than we actually think. But don't be overconfident. That is a guaranteed way to lose friends. Try giving people compliments, and be friendly. Random small acts of kindness can dramatically increase your reputation.