Do You Like Him? 11 Smooth Ways to Ask a Popular Guy Out

Co-authored by Collette Gee and Hannah Madden

Last Updated: August 25, 2021 References

Asking someone out can be nerve wracking, but it’s even scarier when they’re a funny, charming, popular guy. If you have your sights set on the cool guy at school, don’t wait! Read through a few ways you can ask him out and (hopefully) start dating the guy of your dreams.

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Give yourself a quick pep talk.

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It can be nerve wracking to ask someone on a date! If you’re feeling shy or anxious, tell yourself that you can be cool, calm, and collected when talking to the guy you like. Remind yourself that you’re perfect just the way you are, and that you’ll feel much better once your feelings are out in the open.^{[1]
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- The fact that he’s popular can add even more pressure, but try not to let it! He’s only human, just like you.
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Ask him out for a group date.

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Keep things a little more casual for your date. Instead of asking him out one on one, see if the guy you like wants to hang with you and your friends. Try to invite all the couples you know so it’s clear to him that it’s a little more than just a typical hang.^{[2]
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- Say something like, “Hey, my friends Jessica and Peter were gonna see a movie this weekend. Wanna come? You could keep me company!”

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Tell him you have an extra ticket.

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It could be to the movies, the museum, or even a concert. Tell the guy you like that a friend bailed on you and now you have an extra ticket. This is a casual way to ask him out that won’t put a ton of pressure on either of you.^{[3]
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- Say something like, “My friend was supposed to come with me to the movie premiere tomorrow, but she can’t come anymore. Do you wanna go with me?”
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Ask him if he has plans over the weekend.

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After that, segway into seeing if he wants to hang out. This is a more indirect way to ask him out, so it’s a good one to use if you’re feeling a little nervous. If he’s busy this weekend, ask him what he’s doing next weekend instead.^{[4]
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- Try something like, “Any plans for the weekend?” If he says no, say, “Cool, me neither. Do you wanna hang out?”

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Challenge him to suggest a date idea.

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Make it a friendly competition to find some humor in it. If you two have a fun, flirty relationship already, this is a cute way to keep that going. See who can come up with the best first date idea: you or him? Say something like:^{[5]
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- “I bet you can’t come up with a better first date idea than me.” Then, when he explains his idea, say, “Okay, that sounds pretty cool actually. You win. Let’s do it.”
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Slip him a note.

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If you two have a class together, this is a cute way to do it. On a piece of paper, write something like, “Do you wanna go to the movies this weekend?” Slide it to him during class and wait for his response!^{[6]
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- This is a fun way to call back to your elementary school note-passing days.

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Do something together you both like.

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If you two have mutual interests, this is an easy way in. For instance, if you both like surfing, see if he wants to hit the beach with you this weekend. If you both like to read, ask him if he wants to check out the new bookstore downtown. It will be a fun way for you two to spend time together.^{[7]
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- Maybe there’s a new movie coming out that you two have bonded over, or a TV show character that you both like.
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Try a goofy pickup line.

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Keep your relationship light and silly with a funny line. Since guys don’t usually get pickup lines used on them, it’s a funny way to ask him out while keeping the mood light. Try something like:^{[8]
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- “Do you like raisins? How would you feel about a date?”
- “You must be tired from running through my mind all night.”
- “We’re not socks, but I think we’d make a great pair.”

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Tell him you have a crush on him.

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See what his feelings are if you aren’t sure. To really lock him down, try expressing yourself and then asking him out on a date.^{[9]
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Expert Interview. 1 May 2020.} If he doesn’t feel the same, that’s okay! Say something like:^{[10]
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- “I think I might have a crush on you.”
- “Do you like anyone? Because I think I might like you.”
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Send him a text if you’re shy.

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Asking someone out in person can be nerve-wracking. If you can’t find a good time or you’re just feeling anxious about it, send him a quick text asking him out. Try to do it after school when you know he isn’t busy with extracurricular activities. You could send him something like:^{[11]
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- “Hey, I think you’re pretty cool and I was wondering if you’d want to go out sometime.”
- If he says yes, follow that with a text suggesting what you should do together. Say something like, "Awesome! Want to go see a movie this weekend?"^{[12]
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Accept whatever he says.

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He has the right to say yes or no to your date, and that’s okay. If he says yes, then feel free to get excited! If he says no, don’t take it personally, and set your sights on someone new. Either way, you can be glad that you put yourself out there, and feel free to pat yourself on the back for that.^{[13]
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- Remember that rejection isn’t your fault, and it says nothing about you as a person. Rejection just means that you two weren’t right for each other, and that’s okay.
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Community Q&A

Question

Should you ask a popular guy out?

Collette Gee
Relationship Coach & Certified Violence Prevention Specialist
Collette Gee is a Relationship Coach, Certified Violence Prevention Specialist, the Author of "Finding Happily… No Rules, No Frogs, No Pretending." Focusing on creating meaningful romantic relationships, Collette uses her experience having worked in the mental health industry as a psych nurse to conduct relationship coaching, online courses, and workshops to help women and men find lasting love. Prior to Collette's coaching business, she worked in the mental health field as a psych nurse which has helped inform her practice to create and sustain happy, healthy meaningful romantic relationships. Her work has been featured on TLC, London Live, the Huffington Post, and CNN.

Collette Gee

Relationship Coach & Certified Violence Prevention Specialist

Expert Answer

Go for it! If you don’t ask out the guy that you like, you’re always going to wonder “What if?”