How to Ask a Guy to Homecoming

Co-authored by Hannah Madden

Last Updated: September 27, 2021 References Approved

If you’re tired of waiting around for your dream guy to pop the question, break tradition and ask him yourself! There are tons of fun ways you can ask a guy to homecoming and make him feel special. Keep reading to get a few ideas on how you can land a date to the dance.

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Give him a ‘homecoming date” coupon.

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Ask him out by telling him you’re available. On a piece of paper, write “One free homecoming date” and sign your name. Hand it over to him and tell him that he’s just won a date with you!^{[1]
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- This is a fun way to ask someone out that you already know and goof around with.
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Method 2

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Decorate his locker.

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Set up a surprise for him when he gets his textbooks. Before school, grab a posterboard and some markers and write “Homecoming?” in all caps. Tape the sign to his locker and then wait nearby for him to approach. When he sees the sign, head over and ask him the question again in person.^{[2]
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- Since it’s early in the morning, you could hand him a coffee or a pastry as you ask the question.

Method 3

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Buy him a box of donuts.

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Write “I donut want to go to homecoming without you” on the box. Hand him the donuts and then ask him if he wants to go with you. If he does, you can both grab a sweet treat!^{[3]
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- You could also ask the bakery to spell out “homecoming?” on the donuts in frosting.
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Get some chocolate dipped strawberries.

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Write a note that says, “I’d be berry happy if we went to homecoming.” Hand him the chocolate strawberries and the note as you pop the question. He can enjoy some delicious strawberries as you plan your date!^{[4]
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- If you can’t find chocolate dipped strawberries, normal ones are fine too.

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Write it on his car.

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Get some window paint and head out to his car during lunch. Write “Homecoming?” on the back window, and make sure to sign your name! When he comes outside after school, wait nearby so he can see your homecoming masterpiece.^{[5]
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- Make sure you use window paint that’s made specifically for cars! Regular paint could mess up his windows for good.
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Ask him with a pizza.

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Order a cheese pizza from your favorite pizza spot. On the inside of the box, write, “Will you be my date to homecoming? Or is this too cheesy?” Have him open the box for a fun (and delicious) surprise.^{[6]
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- If he says yes, you two can sit and eat the pizza together!

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Use sports lingo.

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If he’s involved in sports, he’ll love the extra effort. Use a green poster and draw white lines on it to make a football field. Then, write “I’ve got a game plan: homecoming?” on it to pop the question. Wait outside after a practice or a game to ask him out!^{[7]
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- You can do this for any sport! Just switch up the color of the poster board to match whichever playing field he’s on.
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Gift him a box of tacos.

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Write “Let’s taco bout homecoming” on the box. When he opens it up, he’ll be delighted with delicious tacos and a fun homecoming date proposal. The best part is that he gets to chow down on a meal with you after he answers.^{[8]
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- This is a great option if he doesn’t have a sweet tooth but you still want to ask him using food.

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Ask him with a pack of highlighters.

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If he’s a little nerdy, he’ll love this proposal. Attach a note to the highlighters that says, “It would be the highlight of my year to go to homecoming with you.” Hand them over to him to see what he says!^{[9]
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- Try getting a large variety pack with tons of different colors.
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Method 10

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Fill up a fish bowl.

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Put candy and snacks inside of an empty fish bowl. On the outside, write, “Out of all the fish in the sea, will you go to homecoming with me?” Hand over the gift to see what he says.^{[10]
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- You could even add a fish stuffed animal to really sell the theme.

Community Q&A

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What if he's recently asked another girl to homecoming and he got rejected? Will asking him make him uncomfortable?

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If he got rejected, he might actually appreciate you asking him even more. That way, he doesn't have to take the risk for rejection again. Plus, it will make him feel good to know that you want to go to the dance with him!
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How do I ask a guy to homecoming if they just got out of a relationship?

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He might not be ready to date yet, and that's okay. If you decide to ask him still, let him know that it doesn't have to be romantic if he doesn't want it to be. Dancing together as friends is just as fun!
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Is it stupid for a girl to ask a guy to homecoming?

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No, it's not stupid at all! In fact, many guys would be very attracted to the idea of a girl making the first move.
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What if I get scared?

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Just remember fear is one little thing, and your confidence should be stronger than your fear. Just go for it. There's nothing to lose in trying.
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Should I give him something, or just talk about going to homecoming?

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You don't have to give him anything, and you don't want to come off as desperate, so I would suggest you just ask him if he wants to go to the dance with you.
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How do I ask a guy to homecoming if I think he has a crush on someone else?

Community Answer

Just because he has a crush on someone else doesn't mean he's not open to other possibilities. As long as he's not dating anyone, you should feel free to just ask him. If he says no, don't take it personally.
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I want to ask my boyfriend to homecoming, but we haven't been together very long, and we are still getting used to it. Is it still okay if I ask him?

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Yes. If you truly think you are ready, then don't be afraid to ask.
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What do I do after he accepts my invitation?

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Start planning! Usually the homecoming dance is preceded by dinner, and sometimes there's an after party. Order a boutonniere if you want to give him one, and plan what you're going to wear!
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What if the guy I'd like to ask is one of my best friends? I don't want to ruin our friendship or make anything awkward if he isn't interested.

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You can always ask him to go with you as a friend. It doesn't have to be a "date." Who knows, maybe things will take a romantic turn once you get there.
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How can I ask out a shy guy?

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I suggest reading wikiHow's article on getting a shy guy before referring back to this article. That should give you a better idea of how to approach and talk to him about homecoming.